III. Inclusive In Life

Chapter 8

Living in Harmony

 choir, we have to keep the beat, harmony. We must pay attention to the time, to the other people in the choir, if not all will lổi rhythm, wrong words. When we live together too. We have to pay attention, attention to others, have a sense of living in order to create a harmonious living environment. It is fundamental to the art of living in harmony.

This live art sometimes broken because the individual does not know harmony, only know yourself, do not pay attention to others. What we create around, reflect what is inside us.

So the first step to create harmony, must start from within us. No need to have an ideal environment, but we can do it anywhere: When we were sitting in the hall, are sailing, cooking, reading books or working in the garden. Harmonious equilibrium within us, depending on the security level and at ease in our mind. Otherwise, only the disorder.

Peace and at ease can not depend on our external circumstances, because they will never be completely tailored just for you. Examples of the dry season, everyone is complaining to the watering place. In contrast, the rainy season, we complained steamy, muddy roads. How do we find absolutely nowhere in this world?

So, if we look out to find peace and at ease for the soul, alone, only in vain. We need to go inside hoping to find new things that can bring us the peace and liberation. One of the things that the independence is independence -no matter, because this can cause some problems for us, but a spirit of independence, does not depend on the merit of the blame others. That means, when I know I've tried my best to do that, but if others disagree, we also bear alone. Where not all of them endorsed the work of the Buddha, but Buddha said: "I did not argue with anyone. That's who we want to mess with me". Buddha accepted the people spoken against him or his teachings.Buddha fully understood can not catch all of them agree with him.

Persons independence nor seek shelter, other people's praise. Not all of our efforts will bring success. We must be ready to accept it. One can not expect protection. If sometimes we can not do something as large as you might expect, it also unharmed, there is no reason to sorrow for such things.

Want independence emotional (mental) requires us to have a loving heart.Conversely, if we seek to love, we must depend on other people emotionally, it is easy to be disappointed because there is no satisfaction or meet others as my heart desired. Oil that has given us others with all the love, they can not satisfy all of our requirements. Chasing love only useless, is a complete failure employment. It succeeded, by contrast, is to love others. To do so would make us independent of feelings and an order in. Because when loving others, we do not require them to respond. True love does not depend on others, only the personality of the heart.

Peace and at ease depending on the formation of peaceful fields -one in our hearts wide open fields full of flowers, full of love, independence of mind and accept themselves. We are not chasing the love or approval, but they confer a generous way.Simple but effective. It requires us to be generous heart. Usually when someone asks of us something, my self is threatened, and how fear suddenly arise. This is very clearly in the realm of material possessions, for I fear to lose wealth. When someone we love demanding, we see threatened. Conversely, if we granted the love and encouragement, I would not feel intimidated or threatened anyone. Love is the only way that we can live free from yourself.

Sometimes we have sick relatives. That's what we should not be too concerned."There are sick themselves," The Buddha always reminds me of that. But he did not say we must miserable, frustrated because of it. Then there are times when our minds craving arises. I also can not prevent it, but we do not have to run after them. If we have to suffer because of the body and mind now, it is very difficult to have peace and at ease. So know where to find them? Of course not in the huge house, in natural surroundings or in others. We just have a place to dwell: it is in our heart. Where it contains the knowledge is a gift of love and praise fields create harmony around us, which is also where the train should we.

Such is the way of life in harmony training, because we could find ourselves in others. We need to identify our own shadow in others, to identify ourselves more.When there is a conflict with another person, it is also a mirror of ourselves. If my inner peace and liberation, we will not find it difficult with people. Center reflector can not deceive anyone. One of the Buddha's teachings have told of three monks live together in harmony as water and milk. Their opinions, their feelings perfectly fit together. The reason for the harmony completely it is because no one wants anything to their own discretion. It also clearly shows us just live in harmony, fun is what I could do, if we continue to believe that the negative attitude of us is unacceptable.

'Harmony' can be understood in many ways. All in all, it is the core basis for peaceful and happy life, happy. Sometimes we are led karma. That was understandable, but then, when we saw the his zany, we need to stop. All beings want to be peaceful, happy, not just humans. We meditate in order to be happier, but we can not meditate all day long. Sometimes, meditation to uncover any suffering, afflictions which I had buried, did not want to think about. That makes us feel meditation also brings more misery than before. In fact not the case, but because through meditation you can see your suffering than to take sides can accept, face them. It is easy to make us born compassion for all people, for I have found that the human condition is filled with suffering. There are several stages in the process of spiritual development, at the beginning we are like little kids. And though I am in class five, six or seven, all of us are growing child.

Having accepted his now easier than others. But running away is not the way to pay now wiser now. Whether we run away somewhere, will now chase. Because now is not in a place or situation that, but it reigns in our hearts. It followed me to the sky, the sea, where I am, it is there, in anywhere. Industrial evading by running away is not possible.

Also a smart way to pay no more now, but all of us have tried, is to blame, blame others, or to circumstances, events. Ie such actions did not accept responsibility for the actions, their way of life. How to return the third is not smart now become depressed, suffer because of their karma. Most of us are like that. Then surrender all to wait a blessing, a joy that come to us, to help us get out of our suffering-such as a gift, a reward or praise a certain -and then we see the love life back.

All of the above makes paying us now, as if on the first spear of hope and disappointment. How to deal with the most clever now is to see it as an experience, and remember that the Buddha taught is true suffering in the closet first. Buddha very clearly understand the suffering of sentient beings.

The second truth is the cause of suffering is craving: want what we do not have or want to get rid of what we are. Also nothing can make us suffer. If we recognize the pain in me, but do not let it affect me, but accept it as a reality, a part of life, and from there it can recognize its origin is in within us. At that time we can say: 'Yes, that's it'. By the way, we can experience the two substrates in the four noble truths, and the like mean and fourth Tuesday soles can not be wrong. The third truth we can get rid of all suffering, to attain nirvana, totally liberated. And the fourth is the sole director actually, is the Noble Eightfold Path, the path takes us to the full liberation.The first two are easy to carry and constant day experience we can experience them countless times. Just a little mindfulness is that we can recognize them immediately.

Suffering will continue to exist, never ended until we can eradicate all passions, as an Arhat, fully Awakened. Why are we surprised when suffering arise? If suffering does not arise, but this truly was surprised. If longer surprised, as we were hoping to find perfection, perfection in this world.

To be an order in mind, we have to accept suffering as an integral part of human life.If we do not accept, the opposition, the more resistance caused me more pain, and then to find ways to evade. Escape suffering means trying to change others, change circumstances, work, or anything that we think is the cause of our suffering. Such actions can not help us eradicate suffering. Only it's a unique way to let go of craving heart-that's what the Buddha taught. Right now, we can only rely on the teachings of Buddha to practice. There is much hope that we can experience the teachings partly that, the rest can be experienced by his faith.

When suffering arises, we can clearly see that there was a desire, desire is not fulfilled. Find out craving for it, and then decided to let go of it, because there is no other way to escape from suffering. The more we can let go of a lot of desire, the more likely we are to find joy in the inner craving for breaking the inner self in us.Imagine we're singing a chorus, and suddenly someone wanted to excel on all, drowning out the voices of the people, and other people want to sing with faster rhythms. It is clear that there can not be harmony in it.

The liberation of the soul makes it easier to have the independence of emotions, makes you want to give, want to praise others rather than seek its yearning for his personal. We need to be aware that all are suffering due to craving, so we need to eradicate craving. That is the path, the Buddha's teaching. Unfortunately, we often easy to forget the fundamental truth that.

How could I have forgotten so easily? It was because of attachment to self, do we see everything else is secondary, not important to remember. Our mind always remember to think about 'me', 'mine', and because all of them think like that, that society becomes chaos. Only we can find the inner self in his own, no one to help us find it. Buddha has shown us the path consistent with compassion, by the actions of compassion, meditation and contemplation. All of them are the means to achieve liberation, but they are not the last resort. Our aim is to try to instill timed impermanence, suffering and non-self -hieu are things are constantly changing, understanding that life is always attached to the suffering, knowing how the form of the self, makes harmony, happiness disturbed. When there is ego, ego, the suffering also, if there is no ego, no ego, then do one to suffer?

Harmony is sociable with others, but also to have the inner harmony within yourself.Become a holy man will bring harmony that. The word 'holy' is derived from the word 'holy'. However, we do not need to be holy, to live simply honest, calm yourself. That is the most difficult, but also the most practical worth. When we realize that in our base nature is full of good, no need to search outside, the peace of course, will be filled with happiness in my heart.

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Chapter 9

Communication With People

T ser silence the mind, instead of communicating with others, giving us many more benefits. Buddha has repeatedly mentioned right speech: the Eightfold Path, in the biblical world and Phuc Duc Thang Up (Mahamangala-The Great Blessing). Speak kind words, gentle also mentioned in other scriptures. In his treatise on harmony (Exposition of Nonconflict), Buddha also shows that words can create divisions, if not used properly.

Many people mistakenly think that because they lively, know how to speak, they know what is right speech. Actually, right speech is an art to learn. Words depending on process thinking and psychological reactions. When in a state of anger, it is hard to be used right speech. If we want to show -a important aspect of ego psychology wall- my words will smugly. So we need to control not only the life but also more.Only fully Enlightened, Career Arhat can always do all the words, always use right speech. But that does not hinder us to practice, and school district language used as much as possible.

Do not say flattering, excessively sweet. Those words are wrong speech, but many people are still accustomed to use them. They always agreed, advocating an overly.But even they have tried to be kind, saying they were not true.

An interesting fact about language, it should be mentioned here, is the language of oil is the main means of communication we use, it only accounts for around seven percent in the relations between human beings together. This information is a woman in charge of public relations seminar revealed displacement we need such workshops also tells us a lot about ourselves. The work of this man is very popular. Maybe because people do not know how to socializing, talking to each other-especially those living close together. There are many things that happened outside the range of seven percent languages. Since ninety percent of the remaining three do not belong to the language, so we also need to be more cautious about the mind and its emotions. We can not hide or treat them as their own secrets. We often think that we want to think or feel anything is fine, because no one knows, if we do not tell them.It's totally inaccurate.

Thoughts, feelings we also vulnerable to other people aware if any attention. People often speculate sentiment lurking behind the words. So often lead to misunderstandings. Someone says something, and think they have no subtext nothing, but listeners feel something emotional behind the words, should understand completely different statement. Of course, the audience can talk to the insurance people say to avoid mistakes. But often it is not questioned, but just keep misunderstandings, then born dislike, mawkish sentiment, hate each other.

Our deep feelings can be expressed through gestures. If the mind, we can understand many things through attitude, facial expressions, voice of others. In contrast language and how language is expressed in more limited. We can read a newspaper in any language, if we know more than a thousand words. Not much. And in everyday language, we also only ever use that word. We are not very skillful in the use of language a profound way.

Verbal, emotional, gestures shape the relationship between human beings together.When living in a community, we should not only contact a few people, but should contact everyone. If we only choose a few people that we think easy contact, stick and ignoring the others, then that is not living in harmony with the community, with them. A community must include everyone, and each member shall have the obligation, have the right to contact everyone.

We must do so in order to hit less common life born of misunderstandings, to coexistence that brings comfort to each other? One of the factors that have been mentioned in the Sutra Compassion (Metta Sutta) that is 'easy for people to exchange and talk'. That's meant to be ready to renounce his views, to share the views of others. Knowing ready apology, apology speak sincerely. When we do not respond to touch someone say to me, but really listen to what they say. Because talking and listening are often not the same. Listen and listen well are two different issues.Listening helps us know what is happening. Self sketch out ideas in his head, his own view is that the most serious faults often have, when we think we are listening, and especially when we know who claim to be heard. Listening means absolutely no ego, sympathetic to all that we heard. It is an art, an ability to speak like that. It requires us to completely focus on the speaker. Just listen attentively to what has been said, without adding anything on that belt, do not think about anything, it is an expression of devotion. It is also compassion. If my words do not come from the heart, it is easy to be misunderstood.

In his treatise on Harmony as noted above, the Buddha advised us not to promote excessive, nor is lowered ends; both are untrue words. For example, if only one and a half thousand people attended a public ceremony, but I have to say is fifteen thousand, to increase his importance, as it was insincere. Such exaggerated said seems excessive, but the reality is people often say enough things in heaven and on earth. For example, I could distort the truth by saying: "Do not you ever say hello to me before." Also can you do or say hello to me, but to say 'never' is probably not true. So we need to think before speaking. When we speak without thinking, we rarely true, but false, then certainly more. We should not let that happen. We do not lack the time to think, to consider.

Sometimes we need to remind others about what they should do or should not do.For example: 'I can not sleep when the windows are open', or 'Do not step on my foot.' Speaking of which nothing is wrong, but we need to calm down, not to say in response. First we need arises amnesty mind. Once calmed down, we should remember the good points from which I purpose to blame, when we feel confident in, we can say what we think. Need to awaken from the center, as if the words do not reflect the heart, it means that it is not known communication or dialogue with people. We will make the audience misunderstanding, opposition, or at least do embarrassing, awkward. When our words cause dissatisfaction to the listener, as I have done twice as painful wounds.

There is a very useful formula in all of Harmony Argument: 'If you say something that can cause pain, but not true, they should not say. If you want to say something useful, that's not true, they should not say. If you want to say something that can cause pain, but right to the truth, then do not say. If you say something to benefit, and the right to the truth, then wait for the right moment of speaking '. Timeliness can be ten minutes, ten days or ten months later.

There were times when you felt or feel vaguely others are changing, better metabolism. They probably do not need to say anything. Everyone has faults, not to exaggerate these things - maybe we'll never run out of things. Sometimes we also need to say this, this or that, but usually do not have to say anything, because everything is going to change. Honesty, benefits to people who do not need the words of praise, praise them, but all of them must be contained compassionate words. Perhaps the best time to exhort, caretaking, it is time to completely calm, the other also not in a state of unrest, and they are ready to listen to me. If we are anger, it does not always then. It is the careful observation and mindful speech. Without this internship possibilities, then we will create faultless while communicating with others. We can not live harrow, college life, but to live a mindful way, to keep the body, speech and mind all day. But sometimes we can not be 'scheduled' when speaking; our words have the content and timing of its own. It is important to remember what is wrong speech, and we have wasted so much time to talk about this, about that. If you look, you will find that, except sleep, and at attention, mindfulness, time remaining, fifteen, sixteen hours a day is to exchange and chat. So why do not skilful when speaking?

Art is not easy to learn to communicate as expected. Subtle behavior is only part of it. Even when we want to praise, praise someone, we also need to consider how to promote our motivation to do so. I really want to praise others or are giving us up?We need to know how is the most ingenious. If we truly want to praise others do not.But if we really want to promote yourself, then we should leave that give identity, should review the main driving force of our actions. If we do not practice mindfulness words, it is easy to let go of the words without thinking, instinctively, especially when we are stressed, do not be calm. So, can not defy words.

Every night when going to bed, instead of thinking about the difficulties or physical pleasure, think about the good, the evil of the day we have artifacts. His words have the benefit anything? Or the day we were in aggregates employed? Greed, ignorance, pride comfortable, agitation, drowsiness there arises no? What have we done to them can not affect us? How we can bring love, compassion, amnesty to others? Every night we should make a list like that. If during the day, I said something that I regret it now, it is because I lack all, mindfulness. Doing so not to blame themselves, but only to recognize his shortcomings.

"Recognize, not charged, and change" -with the formula seems trite, but authentic century old behold, I illuminates the mind, heart and metabolism. In the evening, after a day full of activities, we can see that sometimes words are not true, is not useful for anyone. We can accept that with equanimity away, but determined to be modified to do better tomorrow.

Never forget to reconsider his action motivation. Who do not improve may do good everywhere. But first of all good qualities to come from our heart. Then from the heart, the mind can holiness comes from it. For if the good things we did not have, then how we giving to others. If our heart full of love clean, it will reflect out, and words no longer hold an important role again. Speech is not measured by measuring the amount, which is the sentiment behind it. If not always review the dynamics of speech, it is often easy to make mistakes. Then they will haunt our minds, making us meditate affected. Then who is the victim? Main we who bear the consequences of their wrong words, not someone else.

Important words to stand, when Rahula only seven years old, the Buddha preached to Rahula about words. That was when the Buddha has just returned home after attaining. And also the first time he met his young son. Buddha preached very carefully to your children about the consequences of lying. Buddha emphasized that wrong speech will make us lose all spiritual achievements.

The reason for the Buddha to preach much about words, because beings often mistake words. Their words often lack the intimacy, warmth, not because of what they said, but rather because of feelings in their hearts. Buddha taught us how to start treatment is to love our fellow human heart without any conditions, a love not only for the cute. Only the Arhat level, who fully Enlightenment- who can totally cute.Also, everyone has certain bad qualities. No benefit to only think of the bad qualities of selflessness; bad character should be aware of the bad nature of ourselves. All the bad qualities are the same, the difference is the amount.

Ta is not only language expletive; which can be unkind words, quip, pride words, pride. All are wrong speech. By always self-examination, we can give them away, to purify the mind.

Right Speech means do not lie, do not talk behind people, do not say evil vituperative people, not nosy, do not speak in vain, do not induce this man spoken against others. Unless we have a special aptitude for language, the rest we need to cultivate speech so effective, that does not happen the nasty incidents, if not, have not proven to understand the teachings Buddha's speech. Things this teaching of the Buddha is very important for all of us.

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Chapter 10

I know Acceptable

R Land strange that there are many injured people do not know themselves. Maybe because they think that love itself is easy to make the most out of this world, because everyone's foremost concern yourself. Indeed, when we see that we do not worry how much wealth, how we work, our health is. Buddha said: "The men fell monopoly" that. So why here I said my love is hard?

Knowing his love does not mean easy to strip himself. Many people can not stand some of the inclinations of the cart before the horse themselves. In each one of us has its own mood know how, with the favorite, with the hate needs to be let go. But when self-examination, often content with his good ones, bad ones and hide. Do not want to accept them. Easy to strip to yourself like that will not help us a long way on the road looking to toe like.

A wrong action is that pities himself for his faults were created, making the situation more and more bad. This only gives us fear, sometimes lead to confusion, loss of balance. If we want to look at yourself honestly, they should not regard themselves as fully, without any negative side -The as dominating nature, anger, greed, or deception. Do not dare to look at the nature of this evil, make us far removed from reality, becomes false, two-sided. We often meet people who seem too polite, kind but very fake, hiding their true face.

Blaming others will not be, because people could do that to me. We often blame other people's weaknesses -The real or not, or did not see them as we are human beings. We all live in a world that is not real, full of great ego, but the world of judgment, blame increasingly not more, because it considered everything either too perfect or too horrible.

The fact that each of us has bases: three fresh root, root three evil. Based evil is greed, hatred and delusion, opposite the generosity, compassion and wisdom. If honest, we can easily see them in me and in others. All our actions are governed by the senses. Understanding how one can shed his back more honestly, do not beat yourself up because of the bad nature, nor pushy these good qualities, just accept their presence in us. Thus we also readily accept other people, empathize with them more.

A world divided sharply between black and white, between good people and bad people can not carry out; only steps Arhat is completely holy. Also in the living beings good or bad depending on different levels. The difference between us about the bad, the good little, insignificant. Everyone must practice the same, cultivate good character and removed the bad ones.

We have different looks, but that is just an illusion. All of us are faced with common problems, along with the ability to solve the same. The only difference is in the process of training. Once in a lifetime cultivating the mind, we can see it more clearly.

Lucid mind has been the result has been the sensation of purification, which is not easily done. We can only be done, if not identify with the emotional joys, and pains.When we can penetrate their feelings, considered as one of the duties we have to make for yourself, then the cling rope was removed, thoughts like 'I'm fine ", or "I'm too bad" can be crushed. Every person is a being full of prospects as well as obstacles. If we can accept, love 'this man' with the pros and cons of it, then we can accept, love others honestly, and benefits. But if we have discrimination, only know how to love the advantages that others do not accept, then we far removed from reality forever. someday, we will have to accept things as they are. we are 'training environment' ( kammatthana ) by yourself.

If we know by looking at her eyes like that, I would love to know myself fully -like we exist - like Buddha, 'a mother not to mention their lives, injured love, protect children '. If we want to be honest about his vision, to grow, then we need to be his own gentle mother. A mother can consciously distinguish good behavior, my bad, but she did not stop loving you, even when it is not the good child. This may be the most important thing we need to keep in mind. Everyone, there are times, mistakes in our mind, the many-especially in Italy, average at the border, the less action. In the case that we do? The mother would do? The mother would tell me not to continue such actions, confirmed his love for me always, but the results of how, ultimately continued their motherhood, parenting. Perhaps we should begin to nourish themselves.

All this process is to teach adult children. There are intellectual maturity, which sadly no relation to age. If not, is easy to say, then, the success is a guarantee of the future. But in fact, we need to strive to achieve a lot of wisdom, and it requires the individual striving. First, we start by practicing awareness, then accept yourself, not rated, guilty. The third step is to modify. Perhaps for many people, cognitive problems is arduous, the hardest -no easy to know what is happening within our interior. That is the most important and most interesting in meditation.

We need to live a life full of insight, but does not mean we have to meditate all day.A contemplative life means that we see all what's going on is part of life experience, to be learned. In all cases we are always turned on, face their own inner. When we turn off our -when filled with 'vitality child' as Buddha mentioned, and to the whole body, speech and mind of ours in worldly things, we need to awaken, to return back inside. A life for a few contemplative religious life is completely oriented to religion.In our religion, which is a combination of religion and life. A contemplative life never stop. Superficially, we still act normal, oils with or without inhibitions. The pensive, deposition is the most important element of insights. No need to sit all day, to monitor breathing. But every action, every thought, every word are conscious.

Doing so will help us to have a solid interior, but not far removed from reality. Many people desire, desire to have this solidity, but do not know how to express, let alone experience it. Living in vanity, living in fear, forever promising to never stop, do not allow us to grow introspective. Sense of security will arise when we can face yourself honestly, look others honestly, and to accept all.

Buddha said all sentient beings have seven characteristics: greed, hatred and wrong, chronic doubt, conceit, egotism and ignorance. While recognizing their existence in me, tell yourself: I know, I will self-modification.

Contemplative life often seems heavy, melancholy. No joy, it is often offset by outward. But do not be possible. On the contrary, we need to find the source of joy for the inner softer. Nothing worth the anxiety, fear, nothing too difficult. France means the natural law, and we are always influenced by them in life. Where oil, as well as the French do, we are impermanent ( anica ), is suffering ( dukkha ) and non-self ( anatta ). Oil was sitting here or on the moon, just the same. We should not be too serious their problems or other people. No need to reveal to the outside, but always meditate on the inside with a little humor. Maybe that's the best way. If we can deride her, surely we will be more easy to accept yourself. And also more accepting of others.

In the United States, previously had a TV show called "Sad Man Laughing" (Funny People). It is true that we have the most bizarre reaction. When looking back, analysis, sometimes we see them really weird. We have strange desires, dishonest images of ourselves. Humans are funny -Right there vay- so what we do not see that aspect of yourself? It will make us more receptive to what we find difficult to accept in oneself and others.

A characteristic of life that we can not change it: life keeps happening. All we have to meditate here for a while (ND: Only those who come to study with a nun convent). But the outside world has known about? Life keeps going. Only the mind is known, is affected. When there is anxiety, disturbed, delusional, it's also a pain.But no such need. Let's just leave things as such. If we can change to see things happen with amnesty mind, then the mind will purify easier. That means we need to do, which is the purification of oneself, each person must do themselves.

If we can remember what I did, day after day, without distractions, persistent meditation without expect big results, pure mind will gradually come to me. As with everything, let the purity and such. When we remove the bad habits gradually, we will increasingly realize that they do not bring us goodness, any joy. No one does not want to let go of suffering. And gradually, we no longer see the need to do nothing more than worry cultivate the mind. Meanwhile, we know that the transition center has gradually formed. That can not happen easily, but if we were born through many lifetimes away, then one day, one month, one year or ten years from now there is how?

No need to do anything more, without having to run the search whirring. Earth is still moving in an orbit, as well as our life from birth to death shifted. It all happened though we like it or not. The only thing we need to do is to recognize and understand the reality of it. In this way we feel cute love yourself and others, because that is the job of the heart -to love. Moreover, if we also saw the weak aspects of ourselves to amend and purify the mind, then we do not need to have an additional effort, of inner beauty and glow out.

Go back to the inside is a key characteristic of life contemplative reflection.Anything happening inside our mind affects everything happening outside us. Inner lamps and inner clarity can not hide, as well as our bad qualities.

Sometimes we think that we can prove to be a different person. Knew where it was useless. Buddha taught that just heard someone say many things or live with them for some time, we will know who they are. People generally try to be a better person and their real person. And when they fail, it frustrated with yourself and those around you. Understand yourself honestly, compassion makes us see the gentle heart, brings joy to our hearts. Accept yourself and others as our essence, will make the purification of the mind, get rid of defilements, becomes a much easier task.

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Chapter 11

Ideal lonesome

T Nipata menorrhagia, with lectures on The Horn of rhinoceros (Rhinoceros Horn), in which the Buddha compares the saint lived alone with the horn of the rhinoceros.Buddha has praised his life, and repeated in each section of the prayer chorus: "The rhinoceros horns, wandering alone".

There are two kinds of loneliness, a mental ( citta-viveka ), and one of the body (kaya-viveka ). Everyone knows about the loneliness of the body. That's when we're alone in a room or in a cave, or when we tell our loved ones need to be left alone.Many people prefer to be left alone in a short time. But when longer be alone, so it is hard to get along with others or fear of facing other people because I do not love them, we often feel lonely in such cases.

When we lived in the family or in the community, it is hard to be buried on his own.But every day, we need to find time to be with the actual moment alone. That was a kind of quiet. Tranquil mind contributes significantly to our practice. Without the calm mind, it is impossible to know we need to change how the inner observation.

Quiet the mind first and foremost not to depend on others to be accepted, is there a prop, a certain emotional contact. But it does not mean we have to turn their backs on the people, it just means we need to be independent of mind. Quiet mind is the strong heart, because people have the mentality that can keep it buzzing. He can live alone, back into the interior, which still can love others. If others can be kind to them, as well. Otherwise, fine. Persons interested are quiet the crowd oil also still like being left alone. Including oil and chaotic crowds, aggressive, we can still come back to me, and still able to love them without being agitated mob.

The rhino horn on the head upright, bending rigidity can be difficult. My mind has been so? Quiet center helps us get rid of the useless conversation. These conversations have no theme, just as steam rises from the stove, very detrimental to the spiritual development. When we can not keep the heat in the cooker, the food can be cooked difficult. Our practice is like keeping the heat does not evaporate. If the heat is turned off on and off again, the process of internal operations will be interrupted. Better to keep the heat do not spread. Maybe that's what we need to do the most.

Sometimes we fear "People are saying I'm bad!" That does not important- we are the owner of his career which. If someone tells us bad, that's their business. But if we stand anger, then that's my business. If still concerned about what others say about you, ie we will depend on the merit of the blame. But who commended blame who?-sac Probably not five aggregates, sensation, perception, and the SAT + SBT merit criticism? Or hair, or teeth, or skin?

If we can not find a place of inner stillness, where there is not the slightest public disturbance, then we will never find peace, liberated. No one, even the Buddha, are all loved. It is also full of themselves because defilements, so we always go from bad scratched. Things not worth our attention. The more important thing is to have mindfulness, mindful of what we are doing, thinking, feeling being. But it's easy to forget how! There were always other things that draws us like chatting with your friends, or sip a cup of tea parties. For life, for the world is like that, so people who live in that world always also suffering. In contrast the Buddha's path led us from that world to get to true happiness.

Solitary spiritual life is a life not dependent on the past and future, only to stand up straight and walk alone. If you cling to the future, we generated anxiety. Also pursuing the past, again born craving or aversion.

Loneliness really accepted only when we have inner peace. Otherwise loneliness makes us go find something to fill that emptiness, liquid touch. "People turn nowhere are they? How will I endure without friends? I need to share, talk to someone." Mindfulness will not let such thoughts occur in my head, so keep us mindful of the present moment, so we can not think about the future or the past.Mindful that we do not loose, help us avoiding the faults. The more mindful, fewer accidents occur. Petty faults will disappear on the spiritual path. But when unmindful would cause more suffering for yourself, we re looking for someone to blame or to anxiety.

Loneliness may arise ideal when we are alone or in the crowd remained calm mind, not the negativity of others affect you. We can react according to the circumstances, but not to be disturbed. All of us have the inner life of their own, but I just realized that when the heart stops whirring off, so we can walk inside. Once we have recognized what happens inside us, surely we will want to change them. Higher Enlightenment Only the A-la--a new welding center need not completely transformed. Heart stress, lack of calm will make us run to find someone liberates us from suffering, where new or that only we are to save ourselves.

Independent mind also arise unique ideas, insight, while clinging mind only under conventional thinking, because this kind of attention needs to be praised, accepted.Carnal mind can only understand things trivial, can not understand the profound teachings of the Buddha.

The true value of an independent mind is unchanging. As a tree, it can not waver, nor should be based on the new one can stand upright. If the mind lacks vitality, lack of vitality of their own independence, then that's hardly mind strength, determination to act according to Buddhist teachings. Self in mind, not afraid of suffering, there is an additional advantage is a good memory, it can remember a lot of things.

Every day we need to practice by spending their own time to illuminate the interior, to meditate. Reading newspapers, chatting or listening are all forms of exchange, sometimes also necessary. But the essential is to have time to yourself to question: What is happening in me? What am I thinking? Good or bad? I can not in yourself? I worry about his ego more than not? I can live up to Buddhism or live by instinct?

Health, wealth, youth does not help us to escape from suffering. But we can cleverly conceal more suffering. To old age, poor health or poor, we see more clearly the misery of human existence. When alone, it is now time to find out about her. We can meditate on the law has been heard, to be able to practice what we find most meaningful for yourself.

A community with people who understand French is an ideal place to practice. In that community activities also gathered, praying. But all must be out of compassion, not because we want to escape the suffering. The next time you talk to someone, let's first ask ourselves: Why do I want to have this conversation? There are not really necessary or just because I'm sad, I want to escape their problems?

So wise as a spiritual element plus mindfulness will help us know the purpose and direction of his. We will know whether his words with action not for the right purposes, whether we are using these or skillful means we have achieved our initial expectations. No direction, clear goals, will generate around talking, chatting. Even while sitting in meditation, the mind also 'chatting', it is because of lack of interest rehearsed. When we practice with so wise as we know it stops, to observe the situation, the data before embarking on anything. That might help us get a skillful habits, difficult to find in life.

A striking aspect of the Buddha's teachings balance between ultimate understanding and awareness. Buddha used to say to these two elements as a good antidote to suffering, but we need to practice in the daily petty jobs such as learning a new things, remembering a legal question, reciting a verse, Get a new perspective on their own; aware of the aspects of life. Such a center would certainly have more strength and confidence.

Letting go is the best way to get confidence. We know that we can survive with almost no need for anything, including food, for a certain period of time. Once the Buddha to a village where no one has faith in the Buddha. Nobody in the attention to him, so he did not receive any donation. Buddha went away from the village, put grass buffer, meditation. One other masters, see Buddha received nothing, so comforted him: "It must be sad because he has nothing to eat. Also no good place to sleep". Buddha replied: "I live in joy. The joy of inner can help us no more days."

We can live without a lot of things, if we let them go voluntarily. If someone wants to usurp my property, I will fight back, that is suffering. But when we practiced letting go, the mind will be strong, not prone to disturbance. Confidence really helps us let go more easily.

Buddha did not suggest we should follow the extreme forms of asceticism. But we can give up many things parallax example instead of the afternoon sitting around talking, we use that time to retreat. When do those things, rejoice because the mind sees his effort. The more effort, more and more fun.

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Chapter 12

Peace Center

H Phuc also means peace, purity, but no one thinks that. Contrary to the state of peace, purity to be considered 'boring', 'nothing happened', the absence of development, lively. That's not peace, purity is present everywhere. State which are hard to obtain, but also not too many people gave up searching. Because maybe pure peace like lifeless, like denying the supremacy of the human ego. Only earnest meditators with spirituality, new interest, a new search for peace, purity.

Natural instinct of man is seeking to glorify himself, in contrast to the other extreme is the company pride. The pride the rich, it is difficult to find peace. They always have to win more than lose to everyone around: "Who do something, then I can do it better like that." But when the fact is not so, in return is: "Whatever you do, I can not do good with". In life, no one, no time to admit that there are things I have outdone others, oil and sugar that is scanned or writing books.

Guilt or low self-esteem and self-respect, will not bring peace. The parade of talent or inferiority flawed, inferior talent, have made my heart still. It always felt to search, wait a certain result, through the applause praise or disparagement of others.When debit, we seem to have in a war, but to praise, I left as a victors.

During the war, never a winner, only losers. No need to know who to sign a peace treaty before the board, both sides lose. Also, if you feel that you are the winner, who is stronger, who knows better, smarter, you can not find peace, because war and peace do not go together.

Finally people are wondering: Does anyone really want to find peace? Does anyone really find it? I need to go inside, illuminating the mind can find the answers. This advisory action is not easy to do. For many people, there seems to be a heavy iron gate closed gate of the mind. They never know what is going on inside them. But all of us must try to self-examination to see really what you want.

In the lurch, as we do not set about religious inferiority or low self-esteem, then we are really praying for peace only. When heart agitated or religious inferiority inferiority is gone, then what happens? Is it then really we just wanted to have peace? Or we look forward to becoming a special character, an important person, respectable?

Is a 'character' will never have peace. There is an interesting anecdote about the mango tree as follows. A king when riding through the forest, he saw a mango tree laden with fruit. He ordered most troops: "Tonight let's get back here picking mangoes that gives us all". The soldiers went and returned empty-handed. They said: "Majesty, everyone mangoes on the tree had been picked, there is nothing on the trees." The king said that most soldiers were lazy did not want to return to the other woods, so he himself personally rode back there. And the king saw instead a beautiful mango trees laden with fruit, the trunk now just a threadbare to guilty. It broke all the branches for fruit picking. When the king dong little bit farther away horse, he met a beautiful lush mango trees lay another with luxuriant branches leaves, but no fruit on the branches do. Nobody approached this mango tree. Since no fruit, mangos should be easiness. Returning to the palace, the king awarded hats, thrones for the gods again and said: "The people of this country, keep, and I Myself will to live in seclusion in other forests."

When I'm nobody, and nothing at all, we will not fear being attacked or lost, we will have peace. Laden mango trees do not get a minute of peace, because everyone wants to be picking its fruit. So, if you really want peace, let's not be one. Not important person, nor smart, handsome, famous or hold the right thing. But be the humble, less ostentatious, not much character as possible. Remember mango fruit has not been used in peace, be retaining their green foliage to shade for humans. Not that anyone, does not mean doing nothing. We still act but unobtrusive self, unexpected benefit. Mango tree for shade, just quietly shady, did not need known. It is a virtue essential to quiet the mind. But difficult to obtain, because most of us, or in extreme or the other extreme of this, or do nothing, with the rest saying, "Without me, see how they manage", or to be in power director, said this is the other.

As someone, it seems important and ingrained in our thinking than to have peace. So we need to contemplate mind really careful to know what we search for. I expect something in life? If we want to be important, want to be respected, loved, they also have to accept the cost. Everything has a positive and negative side of it, like the sun, the shade. If you're stuck for something of this, they must accept the other, do not lament.

If we really want peace mind, want robust internal resources, we must give up the will to become a character, someone. But not so that we have lost the body and mind, so we lost the desire to demonstrate the importance, the human sublime special that we call 'me'.

All of them consider themselves important. But on this earth, there are billions of other people, who then have to leave us? Try to count. Six or eight, or twelve, fifteen of this billion figure. Maybe we have exaggerated the importance of his personal.Understand how, will enable us to see life more livable.

Want to be someone very dangerous. Like playing with fire, will inevitably get burned hands. Others do not always support us. Some have succeeded in becoming someone, for example, the head of state, but they had to resort to protect the soldiers, because their lives are threatened.

Amid so many things in life -tha human, animals, natural and human objects tao- only one thing that I mastered my mind. If you truly want to become somebody, to become a rare man who can control his mind. Becoming such a person is not only special but also gives us the most lucrative. Such a person would not be able to fall into the trap of sin, defilements.

There are stories about him Achaan Chah, a famous old teacher in northeastern Thailand. He once criticized as containing more anger. He Achaan Chah answered: "It could be true, but I use them very little." Such an answer must proceed from a clear understanding of human beings their individuality. That is not to give a speech, thoughts, his actions become immoral. Such a person is a true new character, someone. He does not need to prove or justify to anyone, if not to say that he does not need to prove anything, because it was too obvious. He desires not only a mobile service, which is the heart of peace.

When we put the peace of mind to the forefront, making it confidential, then all thoughts, words or actions, are facing it. All that does not bring peace to the mind are canceled. However we do not confuse this with the always have to be true, is probably right. Maybe others will disagree with me. But peace of mind is our own. I will get there, if we try to cultivate.

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Chapter 13

War and peace

C constitutional Painting And Peace - an epic of humanity - is all that is contained in the history books, because that is what is contained in our hearts.

If you've ever read Don Quixote, you will remember that he is only fighting with windmills, with their imaginary enemy. Don Quixote who thinks he's a talented fighter. He imagined that the enemy is the windmills that he went through, and come out to fight with them. That's what's going on inside our minds, and also so that the story had been perpetuated later. It's our own story. The writer, the poet seeks to express the human personality. But we do have to listen, because no one wants to hear the truth about his not nice. It is I had to discover that truth alone, but also not too many people do that.

Fight with the windmill, which means what? Means that we struggle with what is not important or not real, just as the enemy, the war in inconsequential -The imagine that we are turning into important, and keep forever in my heart. I told myself: "I can not tolerate that," so we must protest; "I do not like him", that is a war going on; "I'm frustrated," How is a simmering war arose in my heart. While we do not yet understand his displeasure with anything. Weather? Dish? Others? Job? Pleasure?Place? Probably any reason whatever. Why is this happening to me? All this is because we do not want to let go of in order to become a real man himself, it is not a nobody. But no one wants to do that.

Everyone wants to be an important person, who knows, whose perspective is this world, the other world, though all men are just like Don Quixote with the windmill.We sometimes even dogged insistence wrong, just because it affirmed a 'me' great.We think there is anyone at all, nothing at all, then how sad life. Knew where, when we have discovered the truth, we will find that doing so, we feel happy, how much freedom. But just because we fear the windmills attack, we did not want to let go of his illusions.

Why do we find life difficult peace in life? Sir, because nobody wants to give up weapons of all. No other country is ready to sign the treaty completely give up weapons. Everyone blamed the event, but we can see his self-review has not let go of weapons? If we ourselves are not able to do it, blame someone? Nobody wants to be the first to let go of the weapon, for fear of another attack. That, what? Without ego, I do have the conquest? What to do with the victory over the so selfless? Let those who love to war, win, it is important that we are actually interested in peace.

Outside we recognize the war because of the violent, aggressive, kill each other. But how can we recognize the war in my heart? Each of us contains an arsenal inside: it is anger, hatred, greed. We self-mutilation with the same weapon. The proof is difficult to find our inner peace. Sometimes someone comes near me, within reach of bullets and also damaged; sometimes a certain bomb explosion inside me, how decadent creation.

We feel free to see our review can really feel peace in my heart, not fun. Lack of inner joy, a lot of people searching for them on the outside. That is the reason leading to the war. Always the fault of others, or if not find the error, then pour the need to expand, the need for land to reign. For individuals, people go looking for more entertainment, more fun, the enjoyment. If no goals are to blame, and I believe that is the unmet demand.

Very few of us know that these windmills're chasing an illusion, they will disappear soon if we do not condone them more strength, more important. That we can expand the tolerance, not fear, gradually let go, less clinging to views, opinions and habits of action. When all these things has waned, what we're left with? A large space filled with so that we can contain what we want. If wise, which would contain the compassionate amnesty. So what we will not have to fight anymore. There is only joy and peace. But that would not be looking at the outside world. All have to be started from within our interior and spread out. There can not be otherwise. If we do not understand this, then we will forever wandering on the road longer expeditions.

Imagine the days of the crusades cross! How knights had emptied all the wealth to equip themselves with the most advanced weapons, prepared the steed and the most warlike troops, to preach religion to the infidels. There are many people who perished at war or exhaustion, the rest, the oil has been put foot to the holy land, and do not bring any results, in addition to sow war. Today, looking back, we see that the job is crazy, ridiculous.

So we did the same right in his life. For example, if someone read the lines of his diary, writing about the disappointments, suffering its own in a couple of years ago, must now also find themselves funny. We can not remember why then are they important to the world. But we did not stop doing things for how stupid it daily inconsequential, we still dump bags effort trying to shape things according to his will. If we can ignore all that for steep mental mind on what's really important is not better so? Only one thing is important for all beings, which is the heart of peace and happiness. That's what can not be bought, can not seek or give. Ramana Maharshi, a saint in southern India, said: "Not everyone is born also peace, happiness. To do this, people need persistent efforts."

Many people believe that peace and happiness are not synonymous with what to do, do not wear shoulder the responsibility or duty to do, and always with his caregiver.It's lazy. While wants to achieve peace and happiness we must endeavor inner transformation without stopping. We will not have peace and happiness by accumulating more wealth and property, but to reduce the desire, to add an empty mind until all that's left is a space filled to happiness, peace can reign there. When our hearts are filled with the love, the hate, the implementation still room for peace, happiness sweater on?

Although in any circumstances, anywhere, at any time, we can also find peace for the soul, but the main effort must be made within, not by hiding. The outside world has enough games to entertain us, the sensual, seductive. The more you dwell on it, the more our mind is distracted, the less we have the opportunity to receive the views of his suffering. If you have time and opportunity to illuminate the interior, one will notice an inner reality is completely different from what we imagine. Most do not dare to accept the fact that - they shy look elsewhere. Suffering is not the fault of anyone create. Only let go of the remedy is the most effective pain. It's too simple, that few people trust to follow.

There is a famous fable about a monkey trap in Asia-that is a wooden deck with a small gap, put the candy inside. When the monkey wants to get candy, must put their hands on the small door to get. When the hands were full of candy, can not withdraw the hand monkey, monkey trapped so that, until the hunter to catch away. The monkey did not expect that, to escape from the trap, it's not just drop your hands, give out candy.

Our life is like. We become attached to it, because we want to enjoy the sweet taste of life. Not to let go, we caught up in the cycle of rise and fall of happiness and sadness, hope and despair. We do not know how to free themselves by letting go;otherwise we also protest, resist, if anyone let such advice. Oil that we all agree that there is only peace and happiness in a liberated soul is what is most valuable in life.

There is a very interesting story about Nazrudin, old witch, oddly talented storyteller.Story that he once sent his disciples to the market to buy a bag of chili. Who do the will of His disciples, brought bags of chili for Nazrudin. Ong picked up eating chili, all this left the other left. Soon, his face began to redden, tears, snot dripping discharge, coughing. Shocking disciple, his guru look, then said: "O master, he had a red face, tears, snot like that, back and choking. Why did not you stop eating chili?"Nazrudin replied: "Because I'm waiting for a piece of candy."

It is true that the lesson of the chillies! We, too, just waiting to know something, somewhere, will bring us peace and happiness. As for the immediate future, only suffering. Tears, snot we also rolled solid, but we do not want to ignore their illusions. We waited at the bottom of the bag of sweet peppers reasonable? If just thinking, read or hear about these things, all such benefits: we have to actively illuminate, observing his heart back to find our inner reality. Our mind, more desire, craving, then our life is much more suffering.

Why chasing the windmills there? We have to manually create them, you have to destroy them ourselves. Our hearts knows what entangled issues, also giving us many benefits. We'll all just feelings, all this class to other classes, repel each other. But instead of finding reasons to justify them, we need to know that we create wars in the world. Let's drop the weapon, then the disarmament will become a reality.END=NAM MO CAKYA MOUNI BUDDHA.( 3 TIMES ).VIETNAMESE TRANSLATE ENGLISH BY=THICH CHAN TANH.THE MIND OF ENLIGHTENMENT.WORLD VIETNAMESE BUDDHIST ORDER=VIETNAMESE BUDDHIST NUN=GOLDEN LOTUS MONASTERY=AUSTRALIA,SYDNEY.30/11/2016.