Conquer anger, spread compassion.VIETNAMESE TRANSLATE ENGLISH BY=VIETNAMESE BUDDHIST NUN=THICH CHAN TANH. [01] Anger, a destructive emotion B cheat it? Well, we all don't deny it. Sometimes we get angry, resentful, and grumble. We get angry and irritated with one person or another for one reason or another. There are many things, many situations that make us anxious and upset, we often get frustrated and angry when something does not go our way. We want everything to be the way we want it to be, and when we fail, we get mad. Sometimes we want something to happen to us (like a raise), and when it doesn't happen, we get frustrated and angry. That's it, everyone wants to provoke, provoke, insult us. They have a habit of making us angry and upset. In fact, lack of conditions, circumstances easily make us angry. If we observe our reactions and words in our daily actions, we will find many excuses when we lose our temper, or right on the threshold of losing our temper. Anger manifests itself through our words, our gestures, the changes in our facial expressions, our tone of voice, irritation, our actions, and when we raise our voice. And when we can't hold it anymore, we start screaming, kicking things, slamming a door, banging a table, banging a phone or even hitting or physically assaulting others. In such a situation, we are not able to control our anger or control our anger, and people can even die from a sudden heart attack. Our tempers change through the force of our emotions. People with a hot temper get angry very easily. And people with a gentle temperament, always stay in a calm, gentle state after the anger has passed. There are people who harbor persistent hatred and jealousy, and there are people who easily forgive and ignore. Whatever it is, the fact is there to make us all angry, just the difference is in the strength of the emotion and the frequency of the emotion. For even the most mild-tempered person can show signs of annoyance, anxiety, and anger when his patience grows beyond tolerance or when he is under too much pressure. Should we get angry? Is that justifiable anger? Is it used to get angry and yell at others and then lose your temper and face killing intent? Has anger become a way of life for some people in the world? Have we taken it for granted and accepted it as natural and unavoidable? When we read today's magazines, we find many facts about the anger and hatred of people on our planet. Read about all the struggles and wars going on in all parts of the world, Have we ever wondered why people can't live together peacefully as if they were brothers and sisters? Why are we so indifferent, so cruel, so inhuman? Why do people kill innocent people to get what they want? Why are there so many countries vying to build nuclear weapons that can destroy humanity in the world? Why is there so much fear and distrust? Anger and love both originate in our hearts. One thing we firmly believe is that anger is a bad thing, we must absolutely stop it, when it comes from our hearts and minds. It is a destructive emotion that causes much pain in the world and in our lives. It starts with our mind and the mind is the starting source, it needs to be checked and eliminated. In the preface to the UNESCO Charter (United Nations Cultural Organisation) it says: "Since war begins in the mind of man, it is also from the mind of man that the defense of peace can be be done ... ". In the book "Entering the Enlightened Life" it is written as follows: How many sinners can you kill? There are countless people in this world. But if thinking in anger is destroyed, all enemies will also be annihilated." Anger makes our lives miserable. If we continue to get angry and make no effort to control it, we will continue to live in restlessness. Every time we get upset over trifles, get angry, get angry, we start to go crazy. This burning sensation increases with the intensity of the anger. The stronger the anger, the stronger our burning sensation follows... it's a very painful feeling. You can observe it in yourself. The next time you are anxious or angry about something, observe your mental state and heartbeat, and you will see the pain and hurt you yourself are enduring in this state of mind. angry, Anger is an unhealthy state of mind, the Buddha never allowed anger for anything. In Buddhism, there is no such thing as true anger. All anger, whether low or high, is bad. It is like poison injected into our brains. So the Buddha advises us to "turn anger into love." He also said: "Anger can never conquer resentment. Only love can appease resentment-this is an eternal law." He also said, "Conquer the angry man with your love". Let's start with a smile, Buddha said: "Even if a thief takes a saw to cut off our limbs, we should not show anger. If we appear angry, angry, angry. is that we don't listen to His teachings. Instead, He advises us to give love to our tormentors. He said that "for ye should train yourselves." Status We should not worry or be confused, so we should keep it in our minds, we should continue to speak our sincere words, should express our sympathy to others, let our hearts be filled with love, liberate get rid of the malice and malice that are still lurking.And go with these tormentors (thieves amputating our limbs), let us cool off with thoughts full of boundless love, free from anger and hatred. The Buddha's love is perfect. Even as Bodhisatta (Bodhisattva, a future Buddha), for innumerable kalpas he endured countless tortures, died and rose again and again without cultivating even the slightest bit of resentment towards others. enemy. And when he became a Buddha, he always kept a calm and serene state. He never let the state of calm and relaxation turn around. When the fierce elephant Nalagiri attacked him, he bestowed loving-kindness to subdue it. In 45 years of preaching the Dharma, with a strangely short life span is an illustrative example of love and charity. The Buddha was not the only teacher who preached about love. All great men say the same thing. Jesus Christ said, "Love your neighbor as you love yourself! If someone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to your left cheek and ask him to slap the other one." Mahatma Gandhi, a famous advocate of nonviolence said: "If the blood flows, let it flow. Prepare the secret courage to die without killing. For the man lives in the pose. ready to accept death, if necessary within the reach of his brother, never kill him." This quote reminds us of the story of a monk who was threatened by a violent general. The general shouted: "You know, I'm a man who can kill you without even feeling remorseful." The monk replied, "Sir, I am someone who can be killed without complaint." Faced with the brave man, the general left without harming the monk. In addition to poisoning our minds, anger and resentment are also a danger to the health of our bodies. Medical science has proven that anger and other harmful emotions can contribute to disease in the body. When we are angry, our bodies release chemicals that can upset the physiological balance. If our behaviors become habits, it can lead to long-term minor illnesses, such as: stomach ulcers, indigestion, constipation, high blood pressure, heart attacks and even heart attacks. more cancer. On the other hand, a peaceful and calm state of mind leads to physical and mental balance. We will be healthier, happier and more confident. Some chronic diseases such as indigestion may be bothering us and can also be resolved. Other diseases can also be prevented. A refreshing and peaceful spirit will be reflected in the facial expressions and the skin of the body. Wherever we go, everyone loves, everyone likes. No one likes to associate with someone who has a temper or gets angry easily. Take an example: A boss is always scowling, or yelling at employees, he is unpopular and everyone is shunned. When given the opportunity, these employees will leave him. In contrast to the boss who is always smiling, kind or helpful, a person who never or rarely loses his temper is always cared for and loved by everyone. With a boss like that, very few employees leave him even if the salary is higher elsewhere. Moreover, your morality will affect those who come in contact with you, you are a good example for others to follow. Can we change the world, make it better and people more honest based on setting a model? Yes, it is OK. Through our own change and setting a model, we are actually actively contributing to making the world a better place. Let's say: The world is made of people, people make the world. If you change people, you are changing the world. And we start with ourselves, after all, you are not the only person living on this earth. So when you change, you will change the world in a situation where there will be less than one person who gets angry easily. The more people change, the more the world will be changed. The more people love and live in peace, the more chaos and conflict in the world will be reduced. Recognizing the damage that anger can do to us and others, let us dispel anger and spread loving-kindness. Let us be kind, patient, kind, and help others. We should not be grumpy. Let us not leave others confused, bewildered and awkward. Look around and realize that: there is already so much pain in the world, let's not add more. Instead, let us be a source of comfort and peace, a low-light torch for those around us, we can go safely and happily. Deciding to suppress anger and spread love is the first step. The next question is how are we going to practice? When anger arises, it is not easy to control it, it takes a lot of effort and ingenuity to control anger. So in the following pages we will discuss ways and techniques for controlling anger. The main subject of discussion is mindfulness (Sati) and the generation of wisdom ( Yoniso manasikàra).). Relying on mindfulness we can quell anger early on, even when it does arise. Using wisdom generation to explain the many reasons why we don't get angry will remind us and make us want to banish anger from our minds. In the third part, we will present the meditation on loving-kindness ( Mettàbhàvanà), which is the best antidote to anger. We believe that if the reader is interested, considering the reasons why we shouldn't get angry, he doesn't want to get angry, after all, and the next time he's angry, he wants to put it out. right away. And combined with the cultivation of mindfulness (Sati) and loving-kindness ( Metta ), he will be able to defeat the evil angry demon. Everyone can be happy. They can eradicate anger and hatred from the bottom of their hearts and embody great love, wisdom, and intimacy. An Antidote to Anger Fire demon t first The peaceful T (Sati) is the first and most loyal gatekeeper against anger and all unhealthy states of mind. So what is mindfulness? It is the presence of wisdom, awareness, knowing clearly what is happening at the right moment. So when anger arises, you have to be mindful, you have to be quick to notice in your body that anger is arising. You have to specify, recognize and say in your head: "Ah! I'm angry. I'm angry" or you can make short designations like "Angry, angry". Or if you don't want to name it, you can feel the presence of anger in your body. So when assigning, anger is drawn, criticized and there is awareness. This is an act of awareness that helps to check anger. Why do we have to specify it? Because when anger arises, it often engulfs us, before we even know it. It obscures our minds and greatly damages our judgment. In other words, anger dominates our minds. At that time we really don't realize anything, after all at the same time our mental state is angry. We are consumed by anger, we have to deal with it and resist it. Our facial expressions change and we start to grump, flail our arms around, or even yell at the people around us. Mindfulness controls all of these phenomena. It prevents anger from engulfing us. The presence of wisdom is the most necessary for the mind. Only the act of knowing helps to calm the burning sensation. Instead of dealing with and resisting anger, we observe it. We will observe the feeling of heat, of emotion. And while watching that, the anger subsides first it will weaken and gradually subside. We will observe the hot, emotional feeling. And while watching that, the anger subsides first it will weaken and gradually subside. We will observe the feeling of heat, of emotion. And while watching that, the anger subsides first it will weaken and gradually subside. Furthermore, when we observe anger, we are not aware of any person, object, or condition around us that is causing us to become angry. Instead, we watch the mental state going on inside of us, watching for the presence of a feeling or emotion of anger. Logically speaking, when our attention shifts from the object (e.g., the trigger) of anger to a positive perception of the anger itself, such as an emotion, the anger weakens. go. Because if we continue to focus on an object (such as a person), we will get angry, and in fact become even more angry. But in the bright light of meditation, anger cannot develop any further. And another very interesting thing is that the temper tantrum comes without any suppression or pressure. You don't have to grind your teeth, clench your fists, or rely on your will and spirit to overcome your anger. Instead, as you specify, the anger will weaken and disappear. This can especially be seen in meditative concentration, when a meditator's concentration is high enough to knock down an angry enemy or other unhealthy mental state by ordained action. . Another benefit that mindfulness brings is that it allows us to stop and make the right decision or action. When we designate and recognize being angry, we will not be swayed by our emotions. We have time to think and decide to act wisely. During such a time, we have the opportunity to practice. Yoniso manasikàra which the Buddha called the contemplation of wisdom or proper consideration. If the anger doesn't calm down at all from the very beginning, then we can practice Yoniso Manasikàraby meditating on sinful faces and harmful things when angry. In the course of contemplation, our anger will obviously weaken and then the more easily we can convince the unpleasant anger and the anger will gradually subside. A desire not to be angry or to continue to be angry will arise. And eventually, the anger will go away. So the first rule is to practice mindfulness. If you get in the habit of focusing your mindfulness on important changes in your mental state, you can become someone who can instantly capture anger when it arises. You can feel and know that your anger is growing, and based on that knowledge, you can quell it early on, completely getting rid of it before it can. in your facial expressions or actions. That is the miracle of mindfulness. It can instantly knock down an unhealthy state of mind. The next problem is how, of the different ways, we choose to let go of anger. We cannot completely banish it through mindfulness. There are many methods for us to choose and compare. In this book we are going to study the differences between them, and we believe that if you are interested, in time you will read to the very last page, and fully realize the annoyance, trouble and inconvenience. senseless anger. You will never want to be angry again. This solitary condemnation will benefit you, through which your mind is easily directed towards friendliness between people, no longer getting angry, always keeping calm and cheerful. With the right wishes and decisions, you can now reduce your anger. Moreover, anger rises continuously while it is still happening, One thing to keep in mind is that while being mindful and thinking in wisdom, there is no suppression during anger testing. Obviously, quite a lot of anger is calmed down in the process of mindfulness or contemplation. For Western countries, they sometimes think that if we suppress our anger, it will not be good for our health. So according to this school, it is good to express anger to relieve tension. However, there are also other schools of thought that show excessive anger is also harmful. In any case, letting yourself "explode" for the sake of stress relief is not appropriate. With the Buddhist method, the Buddha did not instruct or allow it. Opposite, He teaches us to turn anger into love, to let go of our anger, we are opening up a more muddled mind and creating worse karma. While taking responsibility for the act of harming or hurting others. At the highest level, anger is quelled and the victims are sometimes innocent members of the community. The method for Buddhists we discuss here has nothing to do with anger suppression. The mindfulness that has been mentioned has nothing to do with suppression, it is just the awareness of the mental state that is going on within us. Recognize and watch anger subside in a natural way. Steadfast while practicing calm mind The art of being calm and keeping a calm mood has completely disappeared in our modern world. Life is hectic, worrying, focusing on creating material things, indiscriminate production and consumption, flashy attractiveness, advertising in the mass media, and many other problems in life. Modern life has contributed to the erosion of moral qualities and spiritual values. We also take a toll on our psyche, we are constantly plagued with guilt, anxiety, confusion, anxiety, fear and anger. At a high level, we establish a balance of spiritual growth, simplicity, composure, and tranquil circumstances. To develop this calm, the discipline of meditation is of no value. Applying mindfulness meditation is the optimal method. However, it is not within the scope of the problem to go into the details of mindfulness meditation. It can be gathered from different books on the same subject, the loving-kindness meditation is also a great practice, which is especially effective against all forms of anger. cruel, vindictive and cowardly. It applies ideally to those with an angry, vindictive temperament. So, Meanwhile, it is important that we strive to cultivate and maintain a calm and relaxed state of mind at all times. If we are consistent and determined to make an effort to do this, it is less likely that we will lose our temper or become agitated by disturbing emotions, such as anger. So from now on we should try to maintain composure and consistency in all our actions. We should try to speak calmly and thoughtfully, not be noisy and incite. We should use mindfulness to check for confusion, anxiety, and agitation as they arise. We should keep our body in a calm and peaceful state. We should continue our daily activities with moderation, consideration and determination and we will come to experience a peaceful, quiet world full of joy. During this state of peace and quiet, you will find power and the ability to achieve your work and goals. So the second "antidote" is to cultivate and maintain a state of calm and stability. Saint Abba-Dorotheus, who has spent many years studying, said: "What things are beyond your grasp, even if the matter is very urgent and requires great caution, I will not argue. One thing's for sure, everything you do, big or small, only solves one-eighth of the problem, while keeping the mood free of harassment, even Even in that mood we should accept to give up to achieve the goal, then the remaining chance is 7/8. So if you are busy for some work and want to do it perfectly , try to achieve it. As I said above you only solve 1/8 of the problem, and at the same time if you keep your mood unharmed, there is a 7/8 chance of success. However, if in order to achieve the purpose of the work, you will surely make yourself lose your temper and harm or cause many other troubles by arguing with others, then you will lose your mind. 7/8 opportunities just to protect 1/8 interests? Consider the typical example of the Buddha As Buddhists, we should consider the advice and examples of the Buddha, the Buddha showed patience to deal with thousands of provocations, teasing. He never gets angry instead, he always gives love to sentient beings, even those who harm him. He did not get angry when Devadatta tried to kill him, when Cinca falsely accused him of causing her pregnancy, or when other sects deliberately falsely accused him of killing a woman passing by . Not only in his last life, but in his past lives as a Bodhisattva (i.e., future Buddha), the Buddha demonstrated great patience and endurance. The story of the Khantivādijātaka (the origin story of the patience practitioners) demonstrates the extraordinary patience of the Bodhisattva. In that story, an evil king Kalabu threatened the bodhisattva who later became an ascetic. King Kalabu asked, "What do you teach, recluse?" The bodhisattva replied, "Sir, I teach people endurance and patience." "Then what is endurance, patience?" "It is the state of not getting angry when others curse or beat or insult you." The king continued, "Then now I want to see your true endurance" and ordered the executioner to whip the Bodhisatta. The executioner whipped the Bodhisatta until his skin cracked and blood flowed out. King Kalabu again asked the Bodhisatta, "You monk, what do you teach?" The bodhisattva replied, "I teach people to endure, to be patient, sir. But you think my patience is only on the outside. My patience is not on the outside. Outside, He can't see it because my patience and endurance are hidden deep, clinging to my heart." Because of his selfishness, the king ordered the executioner to cut off the hands and feet of the Bodhisattva. The executioner carried out the order and the Bodhisatta bled profusely. Again the king scolded the Bodhisatta, "What do you teach?" "Sir, I teach patience and endurance. But I think patience and endurance are in my hands and feet. It's not just there, it's hidden deep, clinging to every inch of flesh, entwined in my blood." Again the king ordered: "cut off his ears and nose" and the executioner obeyed. The bodhisattva's whole body was covered in blood. The king asked the same question again, and the Bodhisatta answered the same question, "Sir, I teach patience and endurance. But don't think that my endurance and patience are in my ears and the nose that was ingrained in my heart." "You can sit down and praise your endurance and patience" and then the crab family kicked the Bodhisattva and went away victorious. The general who witnessed the story from beginning to end wiped the blood off the Bodhisatta's body, bandaged the wounds on his hands, feet, ears, and nose, and begged the Bodhisatta to forgive everything. "O hermit, if You are angry, be angry with the King privately and do not be angry with this Kingdom." The Bodhisattva replied, "I am not angry with anyone, nor am I angry with the King because he has hurt me. I just wish that a king who reigns for a long time like me will never be. angry now." And the Bodhisattva died that day. It is said that because of his evil nature, the king was struck by lightning and reborn in the avívi , the hell realm. Thus, talking about the Bodhisattva's patience and anger-inducing emptiness is an inspiration and a lesson for all of us. So as Buddhists, if we want to become disciples of the Buddha, we must try to pay attention to practice according to his advice. Because even in his last life, he was still smiling on the saw lines. He said even if a thief saw or cut off our limbs, we should not get angry, but let us give them generous love and pray: "All sentient beings and names This thief will be satisfied and happy". Without a doubt, this is the hardest piece of advice to implement, but it shows us that: Think we all have to die one day Life is just a moving shadow, a bad actor, glorified, cranky, his hours on stage and then no one talks about it anymore. It's a story told by an idiot, full of sound, chaotic, nothing special. - Shakespeare, Macbeth. There are people who don't know that everyone living in this world must die. And those who know, instead of arguing, keep calm.-- Buddha's words. IN In the above verses, Shakespeare reminds us that sometimes in our lives we have to live in hurt, in death, and in foolish actions. And through the words of the Buddha is also timely reminder that the omnipresent presence of the god of death is following us every step of the way. Yes, we do not deny that it is true, while we are angry, excited, we often forget that one day we will die? But when we think about death, we often say to ourselves, "Ah! Isn't it worth being angry? Life is so short, we all have to die soon. Angry or anxious. It doesn't go anywhere, it just annoys us more. So do things that don't bring you trouble. Let's live in peace with ourselves and the world, everyone around. After all, if you don't move, you don't move yourself... With that kind of wise thinking you can calm down and come to a decision to fight your anger. Actually, at least once a day we think about death is also a good thing. The Buddha taught us maranasati (contemplation of death) so that we can develop a sense of urgency in meditation and the cultivation of wisdom. Reflecting on death will also arouse us, motivating us to strive to live a life full of meaning and responsibility, not wasting time in pursuit of unprofitable things. Regarding Vipassanà , Zen master Joseph Goldstein said: "If we accept death as our mentor, each moment we will live with power and fullness. We will contribute our last strength. same for humanity". So always remember: "Life is temporary, but death is inevitable" or "Alas! Human life is short, always limited and fleeting, full of pain and frustration. suffering". Man must understand wisely, do good and lead a holy life, because no one can escape death? Take a look at yourself on the consequences of harmful anger You don't want to hurt yourself, do you? Of course, no one wants to harm themselves. But when we get angry, we are actually harming ourselves. In the meditation guide book Visuddhi Magga (Pure Path) it is said: "While angry with another, you may or may not hurt him, but one thing is for sure you are hurting. And when you're angry you're like someone who wants to kick someone and is holding a burning coal or stinking poop and so first you get burned or make yourself stink." Oh! Someone is more stupid than you! Yes, we get angry, We may or may not harm others, but one thing is for sure, we are harming ourselves. Harm how? First, we are poisoning our minds through our anger, because anger (dosa) is an unhealthy mental state and in anger we are hurting and polluting the our brains. As Buddhists, we should know that any unhealthy state of mind leads to bad consequences ( we are hurting and polluting our mind. As Buddhists, we should know that any unhealthy state of mind leads to bad consequences ( we are hurting and polluting our mind. As Buddhists, we should know that any unhealthy state of mind leads to bad consequences (akusala vipaka ). So if we don't want bad results, then we have to wisely steer away from anger and delusion and all unhealthy states of mind. As we mentioned earlier, mental state is also related to the health of the body. Through the research of Paul Pearsall, an American doctor, "Every thought and feeling is accompanied by a chemical rain of the brain that affects millions of cells". He further emphasized that: "our health can progress under the excessive control of emotions". In Dr. Pearsall's book "Super Immunity", it is written: "Invisible things such as thoughts and feelings can cause disease and make the body healthy... Germs diseases are constantly hovering around us, but they do not stay and cling if the terrain is not suitable. This terrain is nourished by thinking, Another doctor, U Aung Thein, explained in the journal "Buddhist Biology and Meditation" that unhealthy emotions can disrupt the body's bio-chemical balance. Chemicals released by the body as a result of emotions can adversely affect other organs, such as: the adrenal gland, the cerebral cortex, the digestive tract, and the brain. regenerate other cells. For example, anger is the cause of the release of the chemical epinephrine, which has the opposite effect of increasing blood pressure, heart palpitations, and prolonged oxygen depletion, or the frequent occurrence of mental states. Unhealthy can cause minor ailments such as ulcers in the digestive system, indigestion, heart problems and even cancer. Realizing the dangerous effects of anger and unhealthy mental states on both mind and body, we must decide as quickly as possible to get rid of these negative emotions. We must quickly try to get them out of our minds as they surface. Decide to be patient and stay calm in all situations. Let's look in the mirror Male or female, when angry, are very ugly. If you look in the mirror and see your grimace when angry, you probably won't like it. Perhaps we all have a small mirror in our pocket so that when we are angry we can quickly pull it out to see our beautiful face when we are angry. Maybe it's the immediate antidote to extinguishing the fires of anger within ourselves. Even as a beauty queen, if she has a habit of getting angry, it will gradually fade away over time. Wrinkles will show up before her age when she is always scowling. Or her face is always showing unkindness, always arguing, looking for things to make others want to stay away. On the contrary, a person who is always smiling and himself is always gentle, rarely angry, always has a true love. Wherever he or she goes, everyone is warmly welcomed and loved. People in this life are ugly because they were always angry and ignorant in their previous lives. The Law of Creation of Karma states that those who have a resentful or angry temperament will be reborn as a human in the next life and will have an ugly or even disgusting appearance. So they are Buddhists who believe in the law of creating karma and that it is the law of nature that you reap what you sow. We must know how to restrain ourselves from the anger and delusion. If you get angry, think about the bad karma that could happen to you and you quickly calm down. Realize that we must be in control of our actions We must know how to control our actions no matter what we do we will have to suffer. In the teaching on the law of karma the Buddha said: "Monks, people are the masters of their actions". They are the heirs of their actions. Action is the voice of man. People are attached to their actions. Their actions are hiding places. Whatever they do, good or bad, will be the heirs. Realizing that, we feel anxious for someone who is irritable or hostile. Why so? Because in a state of anger or irritation, he is piling up bad karma that one day he will suffer results that are not pleasant at all. If he doesn't change that habit he may end up in hell. And if we return it with hatred or irritation, anger, we will be no better than him. We will eventually go to hell. When we meditate on the law of karma, we are calm. Because the law of karma is a law that imposes on us the responsibility. Each of us is responsible for our actions. If a person does bad deeds, he will suffer bad karma. It's all up to us, we have to stay away from anger and all unhealthy states of mind. Be good terms of those norms Everyone has good qualities. If we notice the good points of others, maybe we won't get angry at it. He can help us in one way or another. When we recall his good qualities and the deeds he did before. We will soften and soften. We should also remember that no one is perfect and even we ourselves make mistakes. Buddha said: it is better to look at our mistakes and correct them than to look at the mistakes of others. That said, it's better to notice one fault of our own than to see thousands of others' faults. As cold as ice When we are angry, we should not act or say anything. Because in that state of mind, what we do or say may not be right. We might do or say something hurtful that we later regret. Later, even when we say "sorry" it will be too late, because the harm has already been done. A person who has been harmed is unlikely to help him change his attitude or feeling about us. Therefore, when anger arises, we should be as cold as ice and like a log. Only after we have quelled the anger, do we say or do something. So we fall back to the principle of acting only after the mind is calm and at ease. At that time, what we do will be better and there will be no cause for us to repent or regret later. No one escaped reprimand. Once the Buddha said to his disciple Atula, "Atula, this has been going on for a long time, not just today; they rebuke him for him because he keeps quiet, they rebuke him. him because he talks too much, they reprimand him because he speaks slowly; there is not a single person in the world who is not reprimanded? This is absolutely true. No one in this world is spared being reprimanded. No matter what we do, someone somewhere finds out our mistake. Understanding the nature of such a thing, We should not get upset or angry when we are reprimanded. What we can do, however, is consider the reasons why we are reprimanded. If it is true that we are wrong, then we slowly calm down to correct the mistake. But if we are wrongly reprimanded, we do not need to be mentally disturbed. We can justify our actions and why we are unjustly reprimanded. Having done all we can, let us not be unduly preoccupied with reprimand. We should practice equanimity, relaxation and contemplation that even the Buddha could not escape being reprimanded. For example, when he was still alive, the Buddha was criticized for eating meat, deliberately falsely accused of having an affair with Cinca, What matters is whether we did the right thing or we did all we could. When we do so, we will not be blamed by anyone when there is no wise person or someone who understands our position and the reason for our actions, will never reprimand us. . Only those who are stupid or do not understand the reasons and circumstances of our actions will reprimand us. Yes, it is an inevitable part of life; because no matter what we do, we will still be reprimanded or criticized. What we can do is try to do everything right to keep the risk of being reprimanded to a minimum. Final, Why are we angry? If we consider why we get angry, we will realize that we still have the "sin" and that perhaps the "sin" is too great. We are still identified, atta, "sin", "ego" are one. That's why we feel disrespected and angry. If we don't consider "sin" and understand thoroughly the Buddha's teachings on anatta (no self) then we won't be worried, sad or angry, nothing can disturb us. provoke us. During his time in the world, the Buddha was provoked and challenged many times, but the Buddha never got angry, never lost his temper. In the sutras we can find no indication that our Buddha is angry, on the contrary, it is emphasized that the Buddha is the one who has eradicated all anger and is incapable of anger. Therefore, even when the Buddha had the opportunity to resolutely teach a disciple or a monk to make a mistake, he would teach calmly, without getting angry. Likewise, the Arahants (Arahants) who have attained enlightenment do not show anger. For example: Mr. Sariputta, the Buddha's chief disciple was famous for his extraordinary patience and humility. Once a group of people praised Sariputta's qualities, saying: "The patience of our elder is so extraordinary that even when people insult and beat him, he shows no sign of it. angry". An unbelieving Brahmin asked, "Is there anyone in the world who is not angry?" and vowed to provoke the Elder. One day, he came up from behind Venerable Sariputta and punched him hard in the back. Venerable Sariputta noted: "What is that?" still crossed his arms and didn't even turn his head to look back. After a while, the brahmin felt remorse and knelt at the elder's feet and asked for his forgiveness. The elder asked kindly, "Forgive what?" The brahmin replied repentantly, "Forgive me because I wanted to test your patience, I hit you." "Very well. I forgive you." Then the brahmin invited Sariputta to his house for lunch. But they saw a group of people preparing to fight in a frenzy and fierce way and wanted to attack the Brahmin. Sariputta stops them and asks: "For you or for me, he was beaten?" "Yes, for His sake!" "Oh, if because of me he was beaten, he would have asked my forgiveness and I would have forgiven him. Please disperse." And in that noble manner, Sariputta dispersed the chaos. Sariputta's humility was as extraordinary as his patience. On another occasion, the bourgeois was criticized by a seven-year-old novice because the rope he tied was not properly tied. That seems to be due to a momentary carelessness, part of the snob's rope is hanging down. Realizing this instead of Sariputta being annoyed at being criticized by a seven-year-old novice, he immediately stepped aside and tied his rope properly. Then he walked before the hands of the novice monk and said: "Teacher, now it is right!". Such are the virtuous qualities of an Arahant, an encouragement, reverence and a lesson for us. Why didn't they show any anger? Because they have eradicated all that is inextricably linked with "me" or "self". Without the concept of self or self, they do not feel that: "I am the one to be despised". Or "just a seven-year-old novice who dares to correct me, Sariputta, a chief disciple of the Buddha". Such thoughts never came to Sariputta's mind, because he had a good understanding of the Buddha's teaching on what is called anattà (no-self, no self), So the next time we get angry, we have to understand that it's because we still identify with the "me" or the "self". Then if we can realize the fact of anattà that ultimately there is no 'me' here, that 'me' is just an ordinary term or concept, we can consider how Sariputta never lost his temper, even when hurt and strongly criticized, despite his position as the Buddha's chief disciple. With such contemplation, we are able to control our anger. Who is angry? The next issue to be considered is "Who gets angry?" "What's angry?" Atta? Or "me"? Remember, in the final touch, neither you nor the person you're angry with is real. After all, we are only matter and matter, elements and processes of motion. So in the Visuddhi Magga, it teaches us to reflect by dissecting our body into parts: "Now what are you angry about? with hair, with hair, with nails... or with urine. ? or due to the element in the earth in the hair? water? fire? or air? ... Are you angry with a mass of material by the look of the eye...". When we meditate like this, our anger will find no footing and will subside. Or we may think that we are all made of mind and matter. And this mind and matter are constantly changing. Especially when the mind changes very quickly, an idea arises and passes quickly r?t. It can be said that it is like a flash of lightning or a blink of an eye. Millions of instant thoughts can arise and disappear. So what are we angry about? Who are we angry at? The mind and matter with which you were angry have disappeared. Since then many groups, mind and matter have taken their place. Thinking like that, anger can also subside. Know that we are all relatives The Buddha said that there is no beginning as the cycle of samsara. We are passing through samara , this wandering and subsistence journey, because it is so long that in the past we were related to each other to some degree or more. Therefore, the Buddha said: "Bhikkhus, it is not easy to find a person who was not a mother, father, brother, sister, son or daughter.. . of the teachers". Therefore, it will not be necessary for us to harbor any resentment against the person who in the past life was a relative of ours. Thinking in wisdom, our anger can also subside. Forgiveness One of the reasons we get angry is our inability to forgive and forget. As a result, we get angry easily, and as a result we tend to harbor bitterness, resentment, or hatred in our hearts because some grievance has been brought upon us (irresponsibility). the vase is sometimes real or imaginary). Although, sometimes we think we forgive, but deep in our hearts we absolutely do not forgive. Consciously or unconsciously, we are still harboring some bitterness or resentment. If we can learn to just let it go, completely forgiving, we will live a peaceful and happy life – no longer carrying the burden of resentment, Tolerance is rightly called: "the kindest love of love" and "the fragrance of violets rises under the heel when stomping on it". "It's as if the covenant had been broken, torn in half and burned so that it never came back to harm us. If we have true love, If we have a strong love and compassion, we will be able to forgive everything wholeheartedly, wholeheartedly, without any conditions or reservations. So what do we forgive? We forgive whatever wrongs others have done to us, just as we like others to forgive our wrongdoings to them. We do not seek revenge. We control our anger and do not say or do anything that will hurt or offend the person who has treated us badly. We forgive, should not harbor envy or ill-will towards them, understand that we all have faults and shortcomings. Yes, we forgive others, we should also forgive ourselves because maybe we did something wrong sometimes and now we find it difficult. to forgive ourselves. We suffer repentance and remorse. That repentance causes us anxiety, affliction, and physical pain. The Buddha taught that what we should do should not be discouraged about what we have done, but deal with it and not repeat the mistake, and that can make up for it. We should leave behind the unhappy period and not repeat or suffer the occasional pang of regret. If a recollection arises, we should designate it (Example: practice mindfulness) and not fret or worry about it. We should firmly put that thought aside, understanding that there is nothing more we can do but make amends and decide not to repeat the mistake again. Sometimes, we force ourselves to comply with demands and expectations that are too much for us. But we also have to acknowledge human flaws that are inherent and that we are all not divine. We cannot get rid of it, but if we work with it firmly and patiently, we will eventually reach our goal and reach our destination. So we need to be patient, Consider the benefits of loving-kindness When we consider the benefits of cultivating loving-kindness, we no longer want to get angry. The Buddha taught that a person who meditates with loving-kindness can bring 11 benefits: He or she sleeps easily; wake up sober; dream without nightmares; beloved by all; protected by the invisible and by the gods; fire, poison and weapons will not harm him; he easily attracts attention, his face is calm, delicate; he died peacefully, as peacefully as falling into a slumber. If he does not attain "arahatship", after death he will be reborn in the noble "brahma" kingdom. More on these benefits will be discussed in the practice of loving-kindness meditation. But in short, these benefits are supremely desirable and enough to tempt us to let go of our anger and stay calm. On the contrary, if we allow anger to arise, we are denying these benefits. Thinking like that will also act as a deterrent to us resisting anger. Give gifts In some cases, we can give a few items too. For example, there is someone who doesn't seem to like us and talks badly about us all the time. In such a case it is very easy to respond by getting angry and fighting back. But that is not the behavior of Buddhists, the Buddhist motto is: Never take revenge for revenge, but respond with love instead. So let's rise to the challenge and let's do the hardest thing by buying that person a gift! It is a sign of our nobility and generosity, even if the enemy has bad intentions towards us, we should not harbor malice, no goodwill towards them. Then we can be calm and steadfast, realizing that we must refuse, refrain from being drawn into any collision, or be driven mad with anger or malice. And so the opponent will also understand our noble actions and gestures, and gradually he will also change his view of us. Has he even become friendly with us? So giving a gift can be a surprise and is something we might consider doing in certain situations.END=NAMO SHAKYAMUNI BUDDHA.( 3 TIMES ).GOLDEN AMITABHA MONASTERY=VIETNAMESE BUDDHIST NUN=THICH CHAN TANH.AUSTRALIA,SYDNEY.8/6/2021.