The Buddha's teachings on love.

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Ego always looks better than what is happening. It does not give me full opportunity with the reality that is. So we fall into suffering misery. But just let go of all your wills and go back to the fullness of what is going on, we will see everything is impermanent, naturally come and go. All have reason, depending on the grace that arises and also depends on whether grace ends whether we want or not.

In love nothing attaches and attaches to the love of men and women, any words and gestures, we must also show love in mutual respect. Make an unmarried man or woman to respect the person you love, both physically and mentally. The crux of family happiness in a love marriage, the girl must know how to maintain, clever relationship between husband, parents and children to nurture long-term happiness later.

In Buddhism, compassion is always associated with wisdom. Do not understand each other, can not be completely loved because we can not sympathize and forgive, especially those with patriarchal views. Each person has his own suffering, by the pressure of work and responsibility for the family, if we do not really understand each other, the opposite will not love but also angry, blame. Why? Because my self has enlarged. At that time, we will not be able to sympathize, so our love will make others feel uncomfortable, frustrated and suffering.

We come together without knowing, will unconsciously make people love, suffering throughout life. Understanding is the basis of true love. Without knowing, we can not really love each other. My heart, if understood, love will be a solid foundation and long-term.

To love must have knowledge

 

The Buddha teaches about love very deeply and makes sense. Love must have sympathy and forgiveness, by four factors: words, ball, blues, discharge.

"From" in the Buddhist sense is to bring joy to people, and from here the ability to give happiness to the person you love. Love is the material that helps people live more responsible, love is the sincere donation. Love that hurts each other is not true love. There are people who get married for a while, starting to disagree about each other, so the suffering hurts two hearts. We love someone real, that is, make him happy, every day.

"Bi" is the ability to help the loved ones escape the suffering in the consequences. I have suffered and are suffering, but people continue to make me more miserable, it is a true love. There is nothing to suffer in despair. The person you love must be someone who knows how to share, to comfort, to relieve the suffering of pain brought about by circumstances.

Thus, the view of "compassion" in Buddhism is the ability to donate to bring happiness to each other. When we love to make people less painful, grow more happy. Otherwise, we are just passion, passionate in the flesh, not sincere love. "Compassion" in expressive love through an attitude of understanding should be easy to sympathize and forgive each other. To be so, we need more time, to observe, to listen, to understand each other's xinxing and to love more sincerely.

"Heaven" is the true joy in love, making the two hearts are harmonious and intense vibration. The unforgettable impression of true love is that there is sympathy for each other, together create the excitement to achieve happiness and happiness.

"Discharge" is not distinguish, not stigmatized in love in the matter of respect male contempt. I love anyone, the happiness of one's own, the difficulty of one's own, the suffering of one's own, because we and that person is one. When we love each other, happiness or suffering is no longer a matter of privacy, but two people have to share responsibility for each other.

The problem of marital happiness is due to the harmony of the heart and the understanding and forgiveness of each other. High education, full economic, also do not ensure family happiness, although these two elements are essential in the life of couples. Buddhism advocates and encourages people to believe in the cause of karmic retribution, so that we will know how to improve the family life better in all aspects. Therefore, what happens is not healthy rice is not sweet in the life of the couple is because we do not give in to each other.

We love each other is to keep each other, respect each other. Our bodies, too, are sacred and private, we do not want anyone to touch, except for the beloved, we believe, and we want to live and give it all our lives. 

What is love?

True love is unconditional, is given without expectation of response. Even the concept of giving and receiving does not exist, but only of intact and non-self. The love of men and women popular now is just exchange, the goods are the emotions and feelings of the two sides. When there is the illusion of self, true love can not happen, so there are conditions that exist. Love at that time even though there is warm, where the emotions are strong to where ever fragile. Because there is only an external element that makes sense - the feeling of one side changes, so hurricanes come in three directions.

When we love a person, we love both the good and the bad. Bad and as good as the two sides of one hand. I can not just keep one face but leave the other. I always draw myself a picture of my lover or spouse. But that is just my illusion, not the real person. Therefore, we need to listen patiently, observe and share in order to understand our partner. When we understand both positive and negative aspects, we can really love them.

When we truly love a person, he or she will feel free to be themselves. True love does not bind loved ones, but motivates them to renew themselves. When events happen, women are still more disadvantaged, but they are also more likely to let go of their opinions. If the girl accepts the guy as he is, there will be a chance for the guy to change his attitude.

The law of life is impermanent, including love couples. If we have enough patience to observe, we will see clearly, the bitter taste, the sweetness of love. See how it is born and how it is lost. And when we understand, we will no longer cling to marriage but also not afraid of marriage. I can make marriage papers with people I do not love and also can close my eyes to sign a divorce papers when I still love earnest. Marriage or divorce is just a formality, is a contract only. How can it tie our mind? It is important that when events occur, we need to confront them with a clear and good attitude. Because the event is like or not as well as it is an opportunity for us to understand more about ourselves, about the person we love. And from that, realize the true nature of love, of life.

Do not imagine going to monastic life can escape the lessons of love. With blurred understanding, any time we can encounter emotional problems no matter what we do, where. The Buddha taught that it is only possible to escape a dharma when one is fully aware of the positive side as well as its harmful side, when one realizes from its birth until it is lost. Rather, it was self-evident, no one did anything.

Remember the most precious thing in life is imperfection. When life is complete, life will end. Imperfection is a part of impermanence, an indispensable law of life. When we are living in the illusion of the self, of the self and of the self, the ego is always perfection and efforts to be desired. But what it receives from life is imperfect and disinterested.

After the efforts and efforts of hopelessness, thanks to the imperfection that the ego finally surrendered. We begin to live selfless selflessness and naturally we see imperfection as the driving force for the development and evolution of things. Because everything is incomplete, everyone has the opportunity to renew themselves.

Ego always looks better than what is happening. It does not give me full opportunity with the reality that is. So we fall into suffering misery. But just let go of all your wills and go back to the fullness of what is going on, we will see everything is impermanent, naturally come and go. All have reason, depending on the grace that arises and also depends on whether grace ends whether we want or not. All good things in life are "Unbelievable", depending on the circumstances, depending on the object that it is labeled "good" or "evil". Whatever is happening is good or evil, it is a very enlightening lesson about life. END=NAM MO SHAKYAMUNI BUDDHA.( 3 TIMES ).VIETNAMESE TRANSLATE ENGLISH BY=THICH CHAN TANH.THE MIND OF ENLIGHTENMENT.VIETNAMESE BUDDHIST NUN=GOLDEN LOTUS MONASTERY=AUSTRALIA,SYDNEY.19/11/2017.