Family morality according to the Buddha's teaching.VIETNAMESE TRANSLATE ENGLISH BY=VIETNAMESE BUDDIST NUN=THICH CHAN TANH.

The Blessed One also often interested in encouraging the disciples at home to focus on improving family morality. He always values ​​and teaches ways to empathize and keep family relationships better than to focus on other issues like money or status.

 

The family is the cell of society. It is a place where all members can live together and live together. A full family when there is love and care from parents, sharing and sympathy among members. Family is also a place to bring peace to each person after the chaos of life.

It can be seen that the family plays an important role in society. It is a good environment for young children to develop physically and thinking. Children are the preschools of society, the future of the country. Growing up in the arms of their parents, the children will be emotionally fully alive. Moreover, under the education of their parents, they will have positive orientations in the future. Parents are both teachers and friends for the children to share and confide in. Every time we have a hard time in life, our family is the place for us to return and be comforted, encouraged and the best spiritual support when we fall.

Looking at the situation of today's social life, apart from the things we have done, there are also many sad things. We see a lot of social evils being reported on the mass media. From uncultured speech, to robbery acts are attributable to people's lifestyle and morality.

Investigating the phenomena of social immorality, whether indirectly or directly, it is found that there is a dialectic relationship between the family and society as if they have descended from the family. Therefore, research must be started from family. The family plays a role as the cell of society but itself is like a miniature society. Therefore, the moral relationship in the family is the beginning of the moral relationship in the society.

The role of morality in the family

Today, many traditional families still retain the ancient cultural quintessence. Family members love and unite together. With the achievements recognized by the community, many families have become cultural families. However, with the effects of modern society, the traditions and customs in the family are turned upside down, morality is overlooked.

In recent times on the mass media, there have been cases of domestic violence such as a child killing a mother, a mother killing a child or a grandchild killing him to make money for travel, ... The above cases has raised a warning bell about degradation and degradation of the quality, morality and lifestyle of today's young generation.

Living in the protection and affection of family members, some young people did not know it but took the opportunity to thrive in learning and life. They are again tempted by external social evils that make themselves not alert enough to know what is right, what is wrong, what to learn and not to learn ...

These evils are like a pathogen to them. Being infected with external bad habits, their parents did not listen, receptive, but also argued and reacted with disrespect, lack of advice and guidance from their grandparents. to respect. They are willing to use every word of the gangster people to go inside with their families to insult and slander their loved ones.

The urgent issue is to promote the role of the family in shaping ethical values ​​and lifestyles for children in the current period and, first of all, family members must truly love unity. stick together in anytime, anywhere. Each family must promote and instigate the precious traditions of the previous generation in educating and guiding family members. Parents must truly be exemplary in words and deeds to be a good example for their children to learn and follow. Especially in the child's adulthood, parents must have a reasonable management and parenting, suitable to their child's physiology to avoid imposing their own subjective will in parenting. .

Not only that, parents have to listen to their children's thoughts, feelings and aspirations to see if their child's needs and preferences can be met, so that there are proper and appropriate orientations. . Family has a particularly important role in shaping ethical values ​​and lifestyles for children in the current period. The moral values ​​of life that families pass on to their children will forever be the luggage for each person to carry and step into social life with a belief and pride that there is nothing in the commune. Assembly can be beaten.

How does Buddhism think about family morality?

Morality and religion are very early forms of social consciousness, with a long history in human culture. The presence of morality and religion is testament to the human need for a good world. In addition, the Blessed One is also often interested in encouraging the disciples at home to focus on improving family morality. He always values ​​and teaches ways to empathize and keep family relationships better than to focus on other issues such as money or status. Because He himself understood better than anyone about the importance of building moral family relationships. If the family is good, the society will be peaceful.

The manifestation of morality in daily life is concretized by the rules of human behavior in two aspects:

The first is the human behavior to nature because in relation to the environment, human is considered a sentient being, surviving in a vast and mysterious world, is the child of natural mother. nature and protected by nature. Therefore, every man's extreme behavior when impacted on nature disrupts its equilibrium and thus is against the law, is ecological unethical, as observed by the world. that to destroy nature is also to destroy oneself.

The second is the human codes of conduct among a multitude of relationships in the community. These relationships have two sides, on the one hand it is a condition, an environment for people to express their moral behavior, on the other hand through these relationships that ethical standards are also built. embankment and finishing.

The category of morality is always concrete, because each age has its own set of different moral institutions. Morality is not something sublime, abstract, difficult to understand, but it exists and develops due to the needs of the society because it is a form of social consciousness, it is always controlled by social existence. When society changes, morality also changes accordingly.

Buddhist principles of ethics are expressed in the precepts. Ethical norms help monastics to overcome the common moral values ​​in society to reach the disengagement of self. The common precept for both lay people and secular is that human morality is compassion, bliss in order to achieve a peaceful life, avoid creating negative karma and accumulating good karma. It can be said that Buddhist ethics is a dominant ethical system. in practicing ethical rules.

The judgment of morality is karma, karma, it adjusts to the morality of each person according to the law of causality. What is more special than Buddhism is that religion tends to atheism, does not acknowledge the creation of a supernatural being and all moral and ethical values ​​take place in the human world, not by one world. which force is dominant. It can be seen that this is the dominant advantage of Buddhism compared to other religions.

What to do to cultivate morality?

 Be a genuine person

It can be seen that true nature is the heavenly treasure of each person. A person with a true nature and a sincere heart will reach the level of love and deepest love when dealing with family members. As for friends, they themselves will not have malice of calculation and intrigue, but are always innocent and wholeheartedly. To others, they will be able to be more tolerant and not more costly.

Be a cool person

Calmness is a kind of calm mind and a kind of character. Keeping calm is to keep the will, to keep your own temperament. If we want to be calm, we need to cultivate ourselves to become someone who, outside of ourselves, we are free, without any problems, and inside our mind, we are calm. Stillness is not silence but in the cave that can maintain a balanced mind. It is a kind of inner state through self-regulation. A calm mind can jump out of all worldly charm. It can also lead to the gradual loss of mindfulness and confused attachments.

Reflect on yourself

Self-reflection is deeply reflecting on one's own mistakes, moreover blaming yourself as an apology to others. When a conflict or conflict arises between people, only self-review and self-blame can resolve the conflict and turn it into a peace. So blame people not by blaming themselves. The gentleman in the past are self-reviewing, the young man does not look back at himself, but often blames the earth, blames him, and his heart is filled with anger. A polite gentleman regularly finds shortcomings in himself without blaming him at that time, even though he is not a religious person, he is already in the religion.

Courage to face difficulties

The misery is not scary, but the scary thing is losing confidence and losing your will. In life, most things are not as desired, so in difficult circumstances, people need to appreciate themselves, encourage themselves and believe in themselves. By doing so we will discover that our lives have a new life that makes each day we live better.

Must cultivate morality for a lifetime

Because each person must regularly take care of the daily morality, it is persistent work for a lifetime. In reality, when someone struggles, they are enthusiastic and loyal, but when they have little authority, arrogance and luxury turn into sinners. For each person, the moral training must be carried out in practical activities, in private as well as in public life and in all social relationships.
Buddhists must know how to apply the Buddha's teachings into family life so that the family is a loving, harmonious, peaceful and happy community. The doctrine of dependent origination and the Path of the Eightfold Path will help family life know how to love with an understanding heart, respect from above, and to negotiate and be happy with each other. We should not think that we have the right to obey everyone according to our wishes and preferences. Education of family, school and social morality like a three-legged pinnacle is indispensable for any legs, they always complement and nurture each other by teaching people to live consciously with true understanding.END=NAM MO SHAKYAMUNI BUDDHA.( 3 TIMES ).GOLDEN AMITABHA MONASTERY=VIETNAMESE BUDDHIST NUN=THICH CHAN TANH.AUSTRALIA,SYDNEY.31/8/2020.