What to do with clothes and items of a deceased loved one?VIETNAMESE TRANSLATE ENGLISH BY=VIETNAMESE BUDDHIST NUN=THICH CHAN TANH.

Speaking of death means living, life or death there is birth and death, there is death and then continue to be reborn according to karma. There is proliferation, the resolution of the birth and death of human life is to discuss the human worldview, the existence of which is always accompanied by human beings.

Question: My family has just had a loved one passed away, so I have to worry about making funeral offerings a lot of trouble. It is true that our family is very well-off and has conditions. The items of clothing that people just lost are also branded. People said it was clothes that people lost so they burned. Instead, the whole family went to buy votive clothes to replace them because they said that their loved ones did not get hungry and cold, they had all the things they needed in the underworld. If not, they will ask for it. There was a family nearby, relatives came home and they were very hungry, needed to burn votive clothes, so their family burned the whole house, car, iphone phone, a lot of dollars, including almost a king. covered. I do not understand if the person who died and burned the votive is correct and not received by negative people? Must the deceased's clothes be burned away? What happens if the person who receives the clothes is allowed to wear it? Do we need to make sacrifices, mantras, and prayers to neutralize all this? I would like to thank you, Master.

A:

I. Life and Death

Speaking of death means living, life or death there is birth and death, there is death and then continue to be reborn according to karma. There is proliferation, the resolution of the birth and death of human life is to discuss the human worldview, the existence of which is always accompanied by human beings.

To discuss funerals is to talk about the main thing of human being: "Life and death". Speaking of death means living, life or death there is birth, death, and then continue to be reborn according to karma. There is proliferation, the resolution of the birth and death of human life is to discuss the human worldview, the existence of which is always accompanied by human beings. Life and death discuss the whole life, from generation to generation are not finished, life or death is a transfer like a chain, like a seed that produces a tree, a tree becomes fruit again and produces seeds. Like, humans are also passing on to each other, birth and biochemistry endlessly (The rebirth - Kinh Na Tien Bhikshu). Talking about life and the universe, The Buddha instructs people in great detail about the body, the five aggregates, when it comes to the body of the five aggregates, always follow a law of harmony and dissolution, the human body is united, does the Buddha mention impermanent body, suffering, no? , selfless. Thanks to that, it helps everyone to understand and regularly reflect on it to reduce suffering, to progress to the heart that no longer has suffering towards holiness.

According to Buddhism, humans still carry the four-element body. The four elements or the continent are the body plates formed by the earth (Meat, tendons, bones), water (Blood and water in the body), fire (Heat), wind (Breath), consciousness (Understanding know), not great (Wisdom), have formed with disintegration. Because of impermanence, we see that life and then die, due to no-self, we know that the body is a conditioned, illusory or non-existent, death and rebirth without will. Human life in just one thought (moment impermanent), one breath (One moment impermanence), exhaled without inhalation is dead. The human body is always in the law of birth, pillar, and death, which is impermanent, there is life, there must be death, there is birth and death. We cannot have any more demands when people are born to bring joy to everyone, when people die, to bring suffering to everyone. Man is the center of life, there is a man who has the mind, has the power to have everything, man who is heartless even though he lives like a body without a soul. For example, motorbikes have many parts assembled by human intelligence and the man who controls that synthetic iron can run hundreds of kilometers an hour.

For 36,000 days on this planet man was the center of speech. That discussion also sometimes brings people to the truth, goodness and beauty, sometimes the discussion leads to pressure, pressure, inhibition, hatred is a hundred years never ending. For man, if there is no religion, no hierarchy, there is no morality. Humans have no way of combating enemy natural disasters. Religion is wisdom and ethics, human intelligence has the basis to find a way out, an outlet for oneself and for man, an outlet for community and society. Wisdom is the foundation for people to overcome life and death, liberate suffering and afflictions in the present moment, so that people can free their hands and solve community affairs.

II. Birth

First of all, let us talk a little bit about man's journey to be born and into the world. People are born in life, talking about life is very diverse. When the mother is born, relatives have to take care of praying to God to pray to the Buddha and pray to the Buddha. take care of my father so that all good things will come to my grandchild, take care of the mother to be well and nurture. On the other hand, I try to name the children so that they do not overlap with their relatives, go to the civil status office to take care of the birth certificate, and enter the household registration book for their children in the future so that they will have a stable position with the society. It is customary that parents are always attentive to time, protecting their children, To calculate the month, the child is full of months, then a full year and 12 months, shopping for the gift of the "Cradle" celebration. If you are a girl, the mother must take care of "Instant Cotton Ear Piercing", buy for children colorful items to help them have foresight, admire the beauties, be a boy, they can buy a vehicle. let me kick up and train to grow up to be waving around in the world. The songs about the love of Father Diep are as follows: As a boy, he can buy a vehicle for his child to work hard to grow up to be able to grow up in the world. The songs about the love of Father Diep are as follows: As a boy, he can buy a vehicle for his child to work hard to grow up to be able to grow up in the world. The songs about the love of Father Diep are as follows:

Going around the world is unmatched by mother

Hardship in life who weighs more than his father.

The immense sea water is not filled with mother's love

The clouds and the sky did not cover the father.

Algae early the day when the mother raised her child

Putting a thin back to protect your child's life

(Le Quy Don Forum - Chuc Kha)

Newborn babies are the focus of the family. Children born in rich or poor families are cared for by their parents for their children's education, poverty and wealth are different, but the care for children is not different. The dreams for the future, the first and foremost wish is how you will have the will, the intelligence that cannot be less than everyone else. home .. The last thing to look after the children to the age of "Success" is to build husband and wife to hope that their children will be happy and happy. Boys followed the line of cult to honor the ethnic group, while Girls made the revelation of the family style

Teach your children about life

Walk in the radiant of Gia Phong

Boys follow the same lineage

Girls are pure and pure virtue

Death

Death brings regrets to a person who has been trained to be a beauty, has the responsibility to serve the family and society, now dies, dies in death, surely must be loved by a relative even though he is rich. or poor, they will also provide special funeral services.

Talking about death, in the family called "Being". "Friendship" means that someone in the house dies (Death) with a funeral. The loss of a loved one, a turning point in a person's life, everyone is suffering from harmony and now dissolution, a big shock in human life, especially the unexpected death, death, child death, beautiful death, good death, death due to natural disasters. For young or young people, or there are phenomena such as relatives of the same bloodline dying continuously, the family will feel anxious, unilaterally confronted with extremely boring life. . The mind kept on worrying that the family lost virtue and lack of merit, so death kept coming, a monk was worried that something might come up to the family family.

Death brings regrets to a person who has been trained to be a beauty, has the responsibility to serve the family and society, now dies, dies in death, surely must be loved by a relative even though he is rich. or poor, they will also provide special funeral services. East Asians in general, and Vietnamese people in particular, taking care of the funeral for the deceased seems to be a great honor in the lives of people to be descendants and family members. At the funeral, everyone had the opportunity to meet each other to discern and address the class of the family, looking at relatives, adults who are not well known today were introduced to everyone. At that time the owner of the funeral was considered the most powerful and important person at the ceremony.

Nowadays, according to the rituals of the North, a little bit in the Central and South is important. People visit after offering incense to commemorate the deceased, and then put the money envelope in a glass box. When someone bows, the children kneel and answer. The rice offering also does not dare to slip late, afraid of the souls of loved ones who are poor and hungry. After the funeral, the person who is responsible for building a grave to construct a tomb is very solemn, always kept clean, with magnificent and majestic designs to show that this grave has descendants who are fond of caring every day. There are also families with lonely circumstances, which are heartbreaking when the dead are overshadowed, or no one has a smoky flavor.

From living sacrifices to death sacrifices, as well as happy birth (Life), or mourning (Death) have a great impact on human life. From kings to mandarins, from the ranks of the rich people, from the rich to the poor, everyone has an obligation to heaven and earth, heaven and earth, to ancestors in money as well as in the mountains. The establishment of the Nam Giao and Xa Tac in the ancient capital of Hue in the 17th century of the Nguyen dynasty, the same way that people built from the road, it was very meaningful to respect the religion of heaven and earth, and the religion of grandparents had influence. the vast, immense spirituality of heaven and earth. It is to honor 8 golden words of loyalty, faith, ceremony, meaning, filial piety, order, integrity and respect.

Vietnamese people study Buddhism, there is a saying "Van Hanh Bodhisattva is fond of the meaning of the first". Because the process of traveling and integrating into funerals according to Buddhist rituals, there is always a mixture of multilateral cultural influences, a part of Confucius' childish thought, people always worship their ancestors. shadow. In Tu Tu Tu's book Trung Dung often teaches: Respect the dead as well as the living, respect the dead as the living, there is a sentence:

"Death is like birth,

Death as existence ”,

That is, death is like life, loss as well as existence, death is no different from life, lost things are not as different as existing institutions. In the meditation place, the teacher often teaches the sentence: "The Land of Heaven and the Underworld is identical". There is no place like East Asians, especially Vietnamese people, even though they go far from their homeland, even if they forget the address of the place where each other is buried, even if there is a change in the world, even though there is a devastating war. traces of their homeland, or following a strange idea in Europe and America, they still worship their ancestors. They are always nostalgic, the bloodline is never forgotten.

III. Funeral

Funeral is filial piety, is an opportunity for children and grandchildren to report filial gratitude. Funerals that take place in a family when someone dies and a loved one dies is called a funeral. Important funerals according to the death of relatives, adults or children, grandparents, parents or children, whether rich or poor, male or female, from the king, to the civilian ranks are inevitable. old sick death. Death means retreating to the past, preparing for a new life in the future. To die like someone who takes off his old shirt and is reborn, like a man who wears a new one. Every death of a loved one brings the most sadness in the family. Why? Since the dead is a permanent death, one person is suddenly absent in the house, a journey that never returns to the family.

According to the Vietnamese dictionary of Thanh Nghi, the term Funeral is as follows: Funeral is rite, funeral is mourning, mourning is a ceremony that looks gloomy, mourning and sorrowful. The form of the funeral is sad. In the 1950s in Su's hometown, at a family funeral, in My Thanh hamlet, Hoa Dinh commune, Cho Gao district, My Tho province, the owner had a 37-year-old sage relative passed away. The husband, also about 37 years old, was both distressed and crying, and also worried that his best friend skillfully used scissors to cut the trailer into a flock of birds glued to the bamboo curtain to create a scene of birds flying in the middle of the sky flying towards the mountain. The storks went to eat at night and rested on the branches of the trees with feathers on their wings. This funeral was very big, with many relatives and neighbors attending,

The Nirvana Buddha, the elders out of pity for the Buddha, remembers Buddha used to leave his vajra for a week, after completing the first Sutta, they were cremated. . At that time, 7 neighboring Kingdoms and the Sentinel Kingdom came to keep a strict security guard, after being burned to collect countless relics (bones). There was the head of the author Huong Tanh to settle the ceremony and divide the relics of the Buddha among the eight kingdoms of worship in his homeland, the ninth tower worshiped the vase, the tenth tower worship the ashes, and the eleventh tower. Worshiping Buddha's hair while he was in the world. In particular, the Buddha was born, ordained, attained, entered Nirvana, all aimed at the 8th of the second lunar month. (Lotus Library - Toan Khong)

The funerals of kings was very cumbersome and laborious, such as the Le Dynasty's funeral that was recorded by French businessman Jean Baptiste Tavernier in the 17th century. When King Le Hy Tong died, his body was immediately embalmed and placed on solace. In sixty-five days, people are allowed to admire, still serve, offer rice like when the king was still alive. After the rice offering is finished, half of it will give to the monks and the other half give alms to the poor. When he was just off the rest, Lord Trinh immediately informed the religious leaders and set the mourning time to be. Usually mandarins and judges three years; religious for six months; courtiers six months and civilian three months. In three years to mourn the king, to give up all the fun, except for the coronation ceremony. The dishes offered to the new king were all in plates covered with black paint; The king shaved his head and wore a hat of thorns. The princes and forty princes also mourned the same until they were brought into the boat and buried in a designated place. Three bells placed on a tower also beaten until the coffin came down the boat. Three days later, the mandarins were allowed to enter the first king's position and on the tenth day onwards, people could worship.

Most of the old people 'funerals are filled with children and grandchildren. The funeral director welcomes the monk of the hierarchy, buys a precious wooden "First-row" coffin at a famous burial house. The funeral period lasts a week to let the children from far away to return. In the past, in the past, the treatment in the countryside was to kill pigs, cows and buffaloes to entertain visitors to the funeral. The reception also has many ways for the old men, Mr. Ca, the Boss in the village to visit other people, associations, relatives, sui, friends to visit the reception with a lighter form. the elderly. When someone is visiting, the music of the ceremony comes to signal and process the person to do the ceremony. If the dead are Buddhists, besides the death table, there is also a Buddha altar beside them. If the pagoda comes to visit, if there is chanting, recite at the Buddha's table, the homeowner will give the owner 4 incense sticks, a memorial tree in front of the altar, and 3 incense sticks at the Buddha table, each teacher in public 2 incense tree a memorial tree at the death table, a tree offered at the Buddha table. Depending on the funeral, the ceremony is few people, the Master announced that the owner will recite a short sutra to pray for the lost soul of the country, if there are many people to visit, only condolences a few words of comfort to the owner. . Today's funerals for the elderly are still buried according to their own land, but they also have to plead with the local authorities to allow them, the rest is mostly burned in the air, scattered into rivers and seas. , or send to the temple to worship.

Tho tang

In Vietnam, children live for 3 years of mourning for their parents (say 3 years, only 24 months). During those 3 years, when we worship our spirits, our children must wear mourning clothes. In addition, the bereaved, regardless of going anywhere in heaven or earth, or just going out of the house must wear a small black or white tangle, about 2 cm x 1.5 cm in front of the chest or on a hat, tang has when the tang is black, the tang is white. In the Buddhist house, the disciple ordained the yellow ancestor's tang life. Son and daughter are born in a white burial district - Son Truong Son is wearing a spade with a stick.

Worshiping, commemoration is consistent with Buddhist teachings?

See the calendar of days and hours, and offer rice to the dead

Relatives die, whether they go to see Thay for good or bad days is just an unbalanced time for the family to care. Considering that, nowadays the world calendar is no longer appropriate and correct due to the unfavorable climatic effects, including the insatiable heat and cold according to the Elnino phenomenon, the closed house effect, the destruction. forests, building hydroelectric dams ... phenomena. The advancement of science makes the digital calendar meaningless, deviating from the day and night, and the years if you see it, it is just asking for help. Besides, the digital calendar varies from place to place, such as in the western hemisphere, one century is 100 years, in the eastern hemisphere for one century is 60 years, the Mayans have 18 months a year, a month has 20 days. , So does the digital calendar overlap with each other? Will the West, the Asians or the Mayans, the Muslims die because of the bad days of one religion or the bad of the other? The fact that the priest considers the current date and time to have a mix of east and west, sometimes Vietnam, sometimes China, sometimes depends on religions, so it is unclear which date and time are standard, bad is good, no longer valid. force.

Buddhists all over recommend that Buddhists should not cry for the dead, because it is difficult to pass through the consciousness of the dead. Overseas Chinese people in Cho Lon are very afraid of the dead, even though they are parents and grandparents, but crying for the dead is very bad, sometimes the funeral owner hires someone to cry for them. In 1967, this old author combined to bring the funeral of the dead Chinese at Cho Ray hospital, the funeral car was only taken from the hospital morgue to the cemetery. When the funeral team passed through the house, the funeral director would not allow it to be brought into the house because of fear that ghosts would enter the house, only allowed the funeral car to go slowly, not to stop, beside someone who followed "Crying for hire" was very tragic. extremely

According to the book Willow birth and death, there are two types of people who quickly reincarnate: One is the one who recites the Buddha's righteous thoughts when he dies and goes away to Amitabha, the other is an evil deed in the world. Be reborn in another life right away to pay retribution. The rest of the intermediate state body waits for the karmic sensation to be reborn in turn 49 days.

During funeral days, the worshiping of rice is done by the master of the funeral. At that time the mourning master knelt before the project to offer rice to the spirits of his relatives. After the burial, there are tomb-opening ceremonies (If the cremation is cremated, reduce the burial), the death ceremony (7 days), the week-end ceremony (49 days), the 100-day worship, the year-round worship, the funeral ceremony. (Difficult contentment, funeral). During the 3-year mourning period, descendants can offer rice 3 times daily (morning, noon, afternoon) to the deceased without fail, give up, they can also offer lunch and dinner twice. Particularly in the morning, there are times when offering tea, coffee and fruit cakes according to the wishes of the dead at birth.

Handling items of the dead

Some dead people still leave behind many estates, valuable estates that are received and shared by relatives, with new and harmonious sharing among siblings. Thus, all the new clothes of the dead who have not been worn yet left for the next to wear are not a hindrance, and some people will not leave any possessions in the world. In general, no one wants to wear the dead person's clothes, the reason "is afraid of the dead" or does not fit, no one will save the dead person's clothes.

It is very necessary for the flesh to wash and clean the dead. In cases where the dead do not have relatives, they will rely on close neighbors to take care of them. The dead must wear new clothes, male ao dai, female ao dai, Buddhists wear cauldron, blue or brown robes, visiting monks to teach and read:

Body bleaching

May all beings

Body and mind

Pure exterior

Extraction sentence, the brains of the investigation (3 times)

Then bring all the old clothes, the sick ones, especially contagious diseases, all the old and unnecessary items, the bed is burned, read:

Medical body wrap admiration

Try welding style Bao Vinh Vinh

The contemptuous an obstacle course

The West commemorates the supernatural attainment

Male model Giai Bao Man Bodhisattva Ma ha slap (Burning clothes)

Funeral is a sad thing. Today sometimes things happen a hundred times sad about brotherly love. The cause of each family before the family is worried, the love of the flesh is no longer as deep as the childhood, or the end of the love of the flesh due to having the same bride and roots in the same house. A few families whose father or mother died has not reached the burial date, but do not worry about chanting to pray for the lost super-born parents, and hurriedly invite the redundant to come back to file a lawsuit against each other. Real estate quickly, competing property together, it is very sad.

 

According to the Buddhist perspective, the custom of burning votive paper is non-Buddhist, it is an imported custom, demanding, imitating, not the customs of a nation, the custom of a few people. Local Chinese painting.

Burning gold streaks, people (In the East), burning dolls (In the West), dummies (Of farmers) were customary in ancient feudal times, derived from folk tales. local space, type of oral tradition, no narration. Sometimes it becomes a custom, reminding historical events, but sometimes the custom is no longer consistent with the current progressive life, such as:

Ecuadorians every year make dolls bigger than real people to burn New Year's Eve. Every year, on November 5, the British people burst into flames to celebrate Guy Fawkes' Senate terror in 1605. Every year in the United States, tens of thousands of people gather in the desert, stripping naked and burning one person. The wood represents "The Man", the oppressors of this society, and it is fun and arguably a good thing.

The people of Faroe Island in Denmark annually drag a few hundred whales into a narrow strait by boat, then stab them with the spear. They see whale meat as an important part of cultural life and will not give it up.

In feudal times, kings such as Qin Thuy Hoang ((259-210) BC), just ascended the throne at the age of 13. By the age of 22, he built a miniature palace in the Underworld, creating a standing position for himself, after death, he still has a life like in the world, as golden as money. Someone brought his possessions with him, and his wife was buried, so it was painful and wasteful (Zhou dynasty, 1022 BC). This custom is carried out in East Asia, South Asia, Southeast Asia, especially the Phu Nam people, the Khmer, when the king dies, the queen or his wife must be buried in honor of her faithful.

In Vietnamese history, there is Cong Nu Ngoc Van as Queen in the reign of King Chetta II, Kingdom of Cambodia. After the death of the king, she was buried under the king, but then she managed to escape to Dai Viet and went to practice Buddhism at Long Coc Thuong Tu, Linh Son family, Dinh mountain (Ba Ria). After that, she came to practice at Chua Chan mountain. At the end of her life, she came to practice and maintain at Quoc An Kim Cang Communal House and passed away here. Currently, the third tomb tower still remains. The princess Ngoc Van, who managed to escape death, was not buried alive with the king.

According to the Buddhist perspective, the custom of burning votive paper is non-Buddhist, it is an imported custom, demanding, imitating, not the customs of a nation, the custom of a few people. Local Chinese painting. According to the book of the book of `` the language of the landscape '', the 4th year of Van Cong, King Tan Muc Cong, named Khac Nham died. The three cousins ​​Tu Xa were loved by the king and were buried. The people in the country feel very sorry, so they think of ways to find other things to replace, that can be used with grass, wood.

In Nguyen Hung 105, Han Hoa dynasty, Mr. Thai Linh processed the figure of the buried man with the mannequin, Mr. Vuong Du made gold and silver out of paper, and everyone used it. Votive work at that time was only available in the palace forbidden kings and mandarins.

Later, in the year 762 of the Tang dynasty, Emperor Duong Dat Ton had a monk named Dao Tang on the full moon day of the seventh month to make goods for cars and houses, gold and silver in paper popular among folk. The Tang Emperor allowed the release of Buddhism, since then there was the custom of burning votive stocks among the people.

Wang Luan, a businessman with a scheme, allowed people to pretend to be sick and then died. At that time many people came to the funeral ceremony, Mr. Vuong Luan organized many people to bring votive articles, dolls, and paper gold coins to burn for the people in the coffin, suddenly the coffin moved and came back to life. Since then, people rumored from near the temple, Vuong Luan had the opportunity to sell "Votive goods" (Mac Vi - Society and Family - Tien Phong Newspaper Web, July 30, 2014). The practice of burning votive in Chinese folk has been here.

Thus, the custom of burning the votive horse is an ancient custom that deceives everyone, isn't it?

The funeral is said

What to avoid, stop doing

Follow the Dharma of the Buddha

Consciousness should gently remove the body plate. END=NAM MO SHAKYAMUNI BUDDHA.( 3 TIMES ).GOLDEN AMITABHA MONASTERY=VIETNAMESE BUDDHIST NUN=THICH CHAN TANH.AUSTRALIA,SYDNEY.4/9/2020.