Should we cry when a loved one dies? What is the funeral sequence according to Buddhist rites?VIETNAMESE TRANSLATE ENGLISH BY=VIETNAMESE BUDDHIST NUN=THICH CHAN TANH.

The organization of a funeral is large or small depending on the family economic environment, not having to hold a family funeral, treat clowns with wine and meat is filial piety, even making the dead bring more heavy karma. rocker climbing the other side of the world!

Ask: A few weeks ago, my family had a loved one passed away. From the day I know the Dharma, I have tried to encourage my family to recite the sutras, recite the Buddha's dedication to someone who is about to die and even when I die to be super reborn in the good realm. However, no one in the family listens to my children because they say they have never heard it, they should just follow the tradition of grandparents even though they also offer weekly offerings. When a loved one has just passed away, like other tangles, people cried miserably, trying to hug their loved one and complained. As for me, silently recite the Buddha's name, if I don't cry, everyone looks at me and thinks I'm filial, I don't say anything. At first, the family worshiped vegetarian food, but since then, it was made to make offerings to those who came to visit and because he said that he only liked to eat salty food during his lifetime. I know this will make the dead more guilty but no one will listen to me, Tell the children what they know and need to bring some money to the temple to make gold and worship. I'm really stuck. Please tell me that what I do is right? Should we cry when a loved one has passed away? So when the person is about to die, what should I do and what is the funeral sequence to follow the Buddhist rite to benefit both the living and the deceased?

A:

Funeral of life

 

To be a pure Buddhist, to develop a vegetarian mind, to advise good people to avoid evil, to prepare to repay their parents while still in money, to guide parents from unknown places to take refuge in the Three Jewels. I do not know how to become a vegetarian and recite the Buddha's practice to progress, do not want my parents to have samsara in a lifetime of samsara. Photo: Internet

Teacher is eating vegetarian rice at Bo De Duyen restaurant, there are funerals of Chinese passing by, hearing a cry "It's painful to tear the heart", mourning for the dead, relatives crying, someone walking in the funeral group also cry hu hu! Do you know who the cry "It is painful to tear your heart", the water of the water that is scattered about? It is the "cry hired" that you. When I got it, the teacher and his classmates were extremely funny ...

 He attended the funeral of a lay monk who passed away in Trung My Tay commune, Hoc Mon district. During this funeral, did everyone laugh, not cry? Traditionally, when bringing the "Coffin" to the burial, the brethren must be well prepared, they must also have the skill to both carry the "Coffin" and run "The Coffin" to the burial place, without being to pour. The "Elder Brother" sitting next to the "Coffin" must be strong, otherwise he will lose his life ... At that time, the teacher just "led the way", running after the funeral ceremony, panting, chanting the Buddha, really " laugh "extremely, everyone" laughs "with a unique funeral in Central America West.

Funerals in Theravada Buddhist countries

In the countries of the "National Buddhism of Buddhism", ie Southern Buddhism, typically in Laos, when a family has a relative dies, the dead body is placed in the middle of the field far from the people's house, piled with firewood. The dead body, after that, everyone gathered to the house to celebrate, welcome the Master to pray, celebrate the grand celebration party, the party sang songs until the time of the cremation to take the ashes and send them to the temple to worship.

Likewise, there are also funerals where the attendees rejoice, not everyone cry? Besides, according to Buddhism, it is recommended not to cry for the new dead, after 8 hours to "Cry" because crying will affect the death's attachment, not be mindful of being born.

We cry for the dissolution of harmony, weep for birth, aging, sickness and death that beings suffer, never get rid of accidents, weep sorry for people who don't know how to do good deeds when they are born. Therefore, they will get retribution ... but not cry, they will report filial piety!

Buddhist family when there are stories:

 

The organization of a funeral is large or small depending on the family economic environment, not having a family funeral ceremony, giving a treat to wine and meat is a report of filial piety! making the dead even carry more heavy karma like the one carrying a rock climbing across the world. Photo: Internet

To be a pure Buddhist, to develop a vegetarian mind, to advise good people to avoid evil, to be prepared to repay their parents while still in money, to guide parents from unknown places to take refuge in the Three Jewels. I do not know how to become a vegetarian and recite the Buddha's practice to progress, do not want my parents to have karmic retribution in a lifetime of samsara ... that is true filial piety to my parents.

When you know that your family is about to have a loved one "Passed", you work to take refuge in asking for the name of the relative (If you have not taken refuge), invite the monks to encourage the relatives to recite the Buddha's name, to liberate the unjust karma. Opening the Amitayus Sutra, the Jizō Sutra chant for relatives to hear that enlightenment, directly chant more precious than chant by machine, not necessarily a mine bell. In the family's room, you should clean the furniture so that it is very empty, almost nothing left, do not let the eyes of the person who is about to take the last breath, should not let a loud and loud noise, clean the garbage. slippery, not letting the sick person lie down in any corner of the bed, medicine supplies, food and drinks when serving, clean thoroughly, until a loved one "dies";

The organization of a funeral is large or small depending on the family economic environment, not having a grand funeral ceremony, welcoming wine and meat is a report of filial piety! even causing the dead to carry more heavy karma like the one who carried a rock climbing across the world!END=NAM MO SHAKYAMUNI BUDDHA.( 3 TIMES ).GOLDEN AMITABHA MONASTERY=VIETNAMESE BUDDHIST NUN=THICH CHAN TANH.AUSTRALIA,SYDNEY.4/9/2020.