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The story of the self is something that has existed since human beings, and not just Buddhists, but all people who want to have peace and quiet are all trying to get rid of the self away from me. It's a simple story, but hardly anyone can do it.

There is a story about a familiar man who often makes me think. Back then, he was about forty. Forty years of age is relatively mature. He is an ordinary person, hard-working, an import-export company manager, a good husband and a good father to two high school children. Except for meetings, wherever he goes, he usually has a wife next door; But one day he had to go to the wedding of a loved one alone because his wife was sick. 

That day he sat at the table with a young woman, pretty pretty charming. The story is only social, nothing intimate, because they only know each other. The thing is, after a while of chatting, this woman praised him enough: he was not only handsome, but also a smart, knowledgeable and graceful man. Before breaking up, this woman gave him a business card. She is an employee of a real estate company. He put the business card in his pocket and left, with nothing to do with that woman. 

However, that evening, he suddenly had many thoughts. Not to remember that woman, but he thought about himself. Ten years ago, he got married because the two families knew each other and his wife was a beautiful woman, she was a woman with no place so he could refuse the marriage. Ten years of living together happily and getting better and better, having a car home. He had never seen a woman but his wife. 

But suddenly he asked himself a question today:  "Handsome boy? Are you a gentleman? He speaks with grace attracts women? " . These things he never heard his wife, since the receipt of him, there are comments like that. Even close friends never heard anyone praising him like that. Yet today he heard from the mouth of a beautiful woman for the first time. The long-sleeping man in me suddenly rose to make him feel he was another human being. He did not even think of the beautiful girl who had complimented him as a salesman for a real estate company. 

Since then, during the times of communication, he has always shown that he has more points than people in all respects, including material, and he is close to those who praise him like this. Until one day he was promoted to deputy director of the company, he found that he had been sleeping for almost half his life. In the end, what happened must have come, he met a woman and he forgot his gentle wife to have a relationship with the new woman. 

The above story happens very often in our lives now. At one point my ego was aroused to change me or to change my previous self and forget that I had a happy and happy life. Practitioners who want to stay away from self-immorality may still have an ego that hinders the path of cultivation. Many people wonder why a new temple should be practiced. Come to the temple is to isolate life full of temptations. It is difficult to go to pagoda at the time of volunteering with myself want to get rid of everything to take refuge in Three Jewels. Once you have entered the temple, it is easier to practice spiritual practice than the practitioners, because they are no longer in touch with ordinary life. Under the rain, everyone is the same. 

But really not everything is as simple as that. If you have to completely renounce the secrets of the place of meditation, only benefit yourself; But if we go out to the Three Jewels to save sentient beings, they must come into contact with life, and can not be without the circumstance. There is no shortage of people who have gone to the monastery for a while and then have to commit suicide, have to remove the cocktail. Again, there are many monks who are highly admired Buddhists, offering everything they find themselves more than others and also having complacency, being ego-destroying the practice or not. 

The Shia sutra talk about the Zen master Ngo Dat. He was originally an enlightened monk and often had lectures to expose Buddhists. Gradually, he was admired by the king and became a national teacher, teaching the whole court. In a sermon, he found himself seated in the highest position, on both the king and all the officials of the court. For a moment, he suddenly felt proud to find himself more than the king; And for only one moment he had been tormented by an enemy from his past lives, constantly watching him for vengeance, but since he was an enlightened one, there could be no opening to the tomb. Enter the thrust of him until the time that the Emerge in just a moment to destroy his religious career. 

The story of the self is something that has existed since human beings, and not just Buddhists, Everyone who wants to be happy and peaceful, also tries to practice to remove the ego for himself. It's a simple story, but hardly anyone can do it. I am the cause of all sins, of greed and hatred except the Buddha, no one can manage. Not that I just make people obstinate or conceited, find themselves more than people, but in many cases, can change the person is not always good. 

In normal human life, it is difficult for anyone to avoid talking because it does not get rid of the self that makes the situation becomes complicated. Anger for being insulted, ego always wanted more than others, is a situation where the ego stands up to cover all wisdom or tolerance. 

Two people discuss a problem; And in conversation, Sometimes just for some reason, somehow, there is a fierce argument and there is no one who will lose to the end to argue. Angry is evil, immediately dark and in an uncontrolled moment, has given out a mutiny can not be withdrawn. After the end of the quarrel, both of them did not bear remorse in their hearts. Not two people arguing, but two I want more than one lost. Therefore, it is difficult to perceive yourself wrong in the spirit of reconciliation; And finally, even if you have accepted yourself wrong, speaking openly to the other is also a tinge. The I always appears, blocking the goodwill for these other reasons. 

Actually, such arguments in normal life never ended. Even after all that is normal, in the minds of people, they find that something is not right when they meet again. Often, the winner is the one who stops when he or she has gone too far. The best way to do this is to talk to something else that does not fit in with the subject of the argument, and then the person can forget about it and lose to the other person. Just a little, suppressing what I want more than others seems to bring peace, but not easy. 

Falling is not just about self-importance. It is not only anger when others denigrate, criticizing oneself that when doing something that people are happy to digest the gut, the self also emerged. In this life, surely everyone has given and receives something in others, But it's often never fair to yourself. Doing something for others, remember forever and always forget what others have done for themselves. Tragedy is also the ego. 

Humans do not know how to tolerate the inability to see the good of others and that is their suffering without knowing it. I not only make people arrogant, but also make people become nasty. I do not make people control me. Others touched me inadvertently, without any damage, but I also waited for an apology. I do not know what to do, but at least to be able to defuse the I always want more than the other. Anything that can make his ego move up, down his mind, is the cause of sin. Living in the midst of a scrambled life, my ego grows until there is no cure and then it costs me a penalties for myself.END=NAM MO CAKYA MOUNI BUDDHA.( 3 TIMES ).VIETNAMESE TRANSLATE ENGLISH BY=THICH CHAN TANH.THE MIND OF ENLIGHTENMENT.VIETNAMESE BUDDHIST NUN=GOLDEN LOTUS MONASTERY=AUSTRALIA,SYDNEY.24/5/2017.