There are no winners.VIETNAMESE TRANSLATE ENGLISH BY=VIETNAMESE BUDDHIST NUN=THICH CHAN TANH.

 When we forgive the person who harmed us, it does not mean that his or her bad karma is removed. That is why so many people think that forgiveness has no place in the Buddhist karma world, and does not correspond to the teachings that Buddha taught. But it is not. Forgiveness may not neutralize the old bad karma but it can prevent the new bad karma from happening. This is especially true of the evil karma which in Pali is called vera.

Vera is often translated as "hostile", "aversion" or "unfriendly", but it is a special state of all these characteristics: aversion, hatred is the desire to return someone who has wrong with me. This attitude is what has no place in the practice of Buddhism. Endurance, tolerance can diminish hatred, but forgiveness is the one that can set it aside.

Forgiveness helps hatred be set aside

The  Dhammapada , a very famous collection of ancient Buddhist verses, talks about vera (hatred) in two cases. The first is when someone has hurt you, and you want to hurt them. The second is when you lose in a confrontation - during Buddha's lifetime, this was primarily aimed at military battles, but now it can speak to any rivalry that the failure brings disaster, real oil or just feeling - and you want revenge.

In both cases, forgiveness is the end of vera. You are determined not to make the "right" of society even give you the right to do so, because you realize that, from the standpoint of karma, the only score, actually in competitions than losing, only adds points. into the bad karma of both parties. So, when you forgive the opposing party, you basically promise yourself that you will pass up any opportunity to add more evil points.

You don't know that this struggle to create bad karma has been repeated over and over for many lifetimes, but you know that the only way to end that karma is to stop the vera, and if you don't start doing that, it will end. bad karma never happened.

"It scolded me, beat me,
It beat me, robbed me."
Whoever held that hatred,
Hatred could not be relieved.
"It scolded me, beat me,
It beat me, stole me",
Not hating that hatred,
Hate was calmed.
"With hatred to kill hatred,
This life cannot be.
Do not hate hatred to kill hatred,
Is the law of autumn ”.

 

Forgiveness is a practice that you have to do on your own, inwardly, but your opponent may be affected by your example, so as to stop spreading further stains. By doing so, both sides benefit.

However, if the opponent does not stop with you immediately, there will be a time when they will no longer want to dispute, so the fight between the two parties will end.

The Buddha showed us three ways to face any passion that leads us to fall to the side, becoming incurable.

 + First, remember that we are all in the process of approaching death, and we don't want hostile thoughts mixed into good death. The saying: "It harms me. I will not be alone until revenge ”is something we don't want to focus on when the angel of death approaches. Otherwise, you will find yourself reborn with hatred, a way of life not happy. You also have much better things to do with the time you have.

  + The second way is to develop infinite good thoughts, "without hatred, without malice". These thoughts elevate your mind to the rank of Saint, a high rank of the gods, and from that lofty perspective, the thought of trying to find ways to "resolve" the old grievances seemed - but actually the thing - is so petty and cruel.

  + The third way is based on the five precepts: no killing, no stealing, no adultery, no lying and no intoxicants. Never. Not a jot. As the Buddha notes, when we keep these precepts in all dealings with others, no matter who they are or what they have done, you are always safe, free from hatred and danger - at least is on your side - to all beings. And because safety is universal, you too will enjoy the benefits.

In the event that you fail in a battle, the Buddha teaches that you can find peace and end hatred just by ignoring the over - losing. To do that, you begin to contemplate where you usually find happiness. If you seek happiness through possessing power or matter, there is always a win-lose. For example, if you have power, then others will lose power. If others win, then you lose. And as Buddha taught:

"Winning vengeful resentment
Failure of suffering
Living calm and tranquility
Abandon all victory and defeat".

On the contrary, if you seek happiness through the practice of merit - giving, moral observance and meditation - there is no more loss. Everyone wins. When you give alms, of course other people will enjoy what you have shared with them; And you will feel immense wealth inside and outside is the respect and love of the person. When you are virtuous, do not harm anyone, you will avoid regrets for your actions, while others are protected and safe. When meditating, you will not be greedy, angry and ignorant, so you will reduce suffering when they are present, and others will not become victims when they appear. Then you visualize more:

"Even at the battlefield,
Thang
wins thousands of enemies better than himself.
Ultimate victory."
"Self-winning, better than
winning other
people Smart subduing themselves
Often live self-control".
"Oil Angel, Thát-Mrs.
Dau Ma King, Brahma
No one can overcome
Him to win like that".

The victories in life can be changed by - "attachment", cheating - but in the light of karma and rebirth, there can never be an arrangement, the victory over the greed, hatred and ignorance of the village. The body is always long. It was the only victory that did not create hatred, so it was the only victory truly safe and secure.

But that is not the glory that you can hope to achieve, if you are still harboring hateful thoughts. So in a world where we are always threatened in one way or another, and where we can always find a way to pay back our old grudges - if we want to, then the only way to find it. The real victory in life is to start with the thoughts of forgiveness and openness: that you don't want to be a threat to anyone, no matter how much they harmed you. That is why forgiveness does not just correspond to the practice of the Buddha's teachings. That is the first necessary step. END=NAM MO SHAKYAMUNI BUDDHA.( 3 TIMES ).GOLDEN AMITABHA MONASTERY=VIETNAMESE BUDDHIST NUN=THICH CHAN TANH.AUSTRALIA,SYDNEY.20/6/2020.