People from birth, due to social interactions, education from family, school and self-inherent in themselves, we often "harbor" in our negative personalities like anger, greed, delusion, conservative ... One of them is jealousy.
When I re-examine myself, one of us must have experienced a sense of envy with someone, something or feel that someone else is jealous of what we have. So, how do we overcome our jealousy towards others and limit our envy of others? The article is a comment shared from the perspective of contemplating  Buddha's teachings  to help each person transform into jealousy.
1. Learn about jealousy
Jealousy can be understood as a comparison of the more realistic and uncomfortable when others are better than yourself. In Duy wake, there are 10 sub-dishes that are afflicted as follows: Phùng (angry), hatred (hatred), riches (concealed), brain (sad), handicapped (jealousy), san (naked), stalks ( deceitful, harmful (damaging), arrogant (arrogant). Thus, disability (jealousy) is one of the 10 mental afflictions that people easily encounter.
We humans often suffer from this and can feel uncomfortable with others in many different ways such as talent, beauty, fame, status, money, affection and even jealousy. about children. For example, a person who sees other people as intelligent, competent and successful will be extremely angry and jealous even if what they achieve does not affect them. There are people because the girlfriend is more beautiful than her, happier than me, while her beauty is limited, she is jealous. Many people get married, have children or compare their children with the children of friends or neighbors and be angry if their children are better than their children…. Even people with a jealous mind are jealous, jealous of even the happiness and success of their family members like siblings. The expression of jealousy is also very different. Depending on the personality of each person, jealousy is expressed directly out or hidden within. There are people who often scowl, get upset, and get upset when they talk about someone or witness someone rich, talented, beautiful or happier than themselves. Some people are more malicious when the outside does not show any attitude but implicitly inside is an angry sky, looking for all the loopholes of others to harm and trample, finally huh If they meet failure in life. There are also people who express jealousy with very pessimistic emotions that often sadness, self-pity, regret the past and often remember thinking about the past, about the time we are more than others in a certain field. It can be said, no matter how it shows, but with a less moral person, do not believe in cause and effect and from the original envy of jealousy, they will generate other negative actions such as defamation, defamation, disruptive, vandalism, creating confusion, payment, regardless of tricks. to harm the person they are jealous of. More dangerous, jealousy makes people's hearts become calloused, insensitive to the suffering and pain of others. Because, because the mind is so jealous that when we see others unhappy, we do not show compassion but feel joy and happiness.
Overcoming jealousy
Sadness and sadness are also an expression of jealousy
Saying so that we can see that jealousy may sound simple but it makes people deeply disturbed, and moreover, it is the root cause of many wrong actions other human. Therefore, how to transform the jealousy within ourselves as well as to limit the envy of others to me is very important.
2. Transform jealousy within yourself
Being human, the majority, more or less, we all have a jealous mind, but whether we accept and recognize that personality of ourselves or not is up to each person. A person who knows he has a jealous mind and is ashamed of himself and wants to transform his jealous mind, we need to have the following positive thoughts and thoughts:
-     Must be consistent:  when we see someone rich, happy, beautiful, talented or more prestigious than us, we have to consider why they have such things. It is due to the blessings that they have had from this generation to many previous generations, not naturally but luck and happiness always smile at them. If we think so, we can see our hearts gently go away. On the contrary, if the mind desires to let others suffer, it is we who receive the suffering through jealousy, the general disparaging words that reduce our blessings and increase our misery.
-     Practice developing kindness:  It is the birth and joy of what others have achieved as well as always wanting to make others happy. First of all, we need to be happy with the successes and the fortunes that our family members have as happy because our brother's family or sister's family is healthy and prosperous. Next, we are happy when our neighbors are doing well, good children and good candidates. With friends and colleagues, we are all happy when they are promoted, promoted and successful.
-     Practicing the mind depending on joy:  In  the Four Chapters of the Second Chapter , the Buddha taught very clearly:  “For example, as the fire of a torch, several hundred thousand people use torches to share and take to cook or light, many people have fire, the original torch remained the same. " Why only joy, support the alms that have great merit? Why is the mind happy, blessed, more blessed than giving. Sincere alms and honestly happy to support, depending on the wedding is the act derived from charity so the merit, great merit. The mind is the main, not the action, the main act of giving is just an expression of the right mind. The form of almsgiving is really useful for alms-takers and recipients of almsgiving depending on their minds. Moreover, alms-renunciations of greed, and those who rejoice to discharge jealousy should be equally blessed. The mind of jealousy is the jealous mind. Therefore, if we see someone rich and they do good deeds such as giving, making offerings, helping the poor, we are happy to do so, then our blessings are comparable. equal. Opposite, If, because of jealousy, claiming that they do so is bragging about wealth, being fake, then we will not benefit, only more angry because we have no conditions to be like them. Or suppose, seeing children of beautiful neighbors, good students, we are also happy and happy, our children also become such good, filial and loving children.
-     Satisfying with what we have:  Being content with what makes us happier, grateful and positive about what we strive to do and possess and achieve. Instead of comparing and suffering when a friend has an upstairs house, a car when we only have a small house, why are we not satisfied that we have a peaceful home with a husband? meek and good children? If we think like that, we will appreciate the happiness we have to continue to cultivate and preserve it better.
-     Exploiting the potential and promoting your strengths:  from awareness, satisfaction with what you have, instead of being jealous of others, let us try to exploit and use our potential. me Each person has different potentials, but the problem is that it takes time and training to achieve the same success. Just like a lotus flower when blooming or a lotus flower also has the same parts as lotus, lotus, pistil, etc. but the problem is that it takes time for the lotus to bloom like a lotus flower. Also, instead of being jealous when you find that your friends are good at business, why don't we try to exploit our potential in this field, remove the pride and explore and learn the good ones? from my friend to become a good entrepreneur like my friend.
-     Do not consider people who are better than you and your peers as rivals but see them as people worth learning.
From the above way of thinking and practice, you will make your thoughts more positive and gradually eliminate a bad personality of yourself, gradually improve and find yourself better. personally feel the joy with what we ourselves are, holding.
3. Overcoming the jealousy of others
At work, we sometimes say "The tree wants to be silent but the wind won't stop". Because many people face a rather sensitive issue of being abused and detested by others at the place where they live or work. So how to overcome the jealousy of others. We would like to offer a few suggestions:
- We must understand that in business relationships or other relationships, a lot of people want them to be successful and others fail. Therefore, to avoid being jealous of others, we should  not inadvertently or deliberately touch the pride of jealousy . Once people with jealousy have been touched by their conceit, they can defy everything to harm us. This is really dangerous.
-     Do not scrutinize other people's stories , do not listen to stories, disturb your mind.
- Regarding attitude,  don't show yourself to be different, superior to others. Sometimes, in life, we need to hide to survive. For example, if we are intelligent, good at wealth or happy, we do not necessarily have to show it to everyone so that they can see what we have. Because maybe among the people around us, someone who is jealous, they will find ways to cause suffering for us. Every day, we still see in the press there are close friends robbing your friend's husband because of jealousy of his friend's happiness, because he thinks that he is also beautiful and good at such things, why can't there be a person? Good and gentle husband like my friend. So they were mind robbed, scrambled, harmful is in that place. In short, we should overcome 2 habits to limit the jealousy of others: sneaking in the cocoon of being inferior to self-deprecation or being too aggressive, enthusiastic in everything to prove that we are better and better than others.

- In an organization or organization,  we should consider ourselves as an element, a component, not a too important person , otherwise we will be very easily isolated and excluded.
-     Avoid flaunting your own achievements  and do not smear, slander the achievements that others have achieved. On the contrary, we must sincerely acknowledge and congratulate them on what they have done.
Happy to celebrate the success of others
- For one person in the leadership position or the main position of the family,  avoid being pampered, favoring one individual over the other , otherwise it will cause the remaining employees or the children The other child in the family is sad, frustrated and has no motivation to strive and try.
In short, recognizing the jealousy of yourself and those around us will help us to know how to socialize, behave appropriately and gain the most benefit. Once we see our jealousy, we are like looking in the mirror and seeing our own shortcomings, through the process of practice and reflection, we will be free from our jealousy, self-centered mind and see your soul at peace, more serene, and increase your own merit. Besides, we also know how to transform and reduce the jealousy of others towards us, we will have many advantages in this life, joy and sadness will also be shared by everyone. to. That is the life that everyone always wants in this temporary, many pitiful world.END=NAM MO SAKYAMUNI BUDDHA.( 3 TIMES ).WORLD VIETNAMESE BUDDHIST ORDER=GOLDEN  AMITABHA MONASTERY=VIETNAMESE BUDDHIST NUN=THICH CHAN TANH.AUSTRALIA,SYDNEY.18/8/2019.