Servants and soldiers - blame the person or charge themselves.

At the moment of contradiction arise, will you criticize the faults and  mistakes  of others or self-perceiving your shortcomings?

From the behavior of each person we can see the realm of his cultivation, from which to base the distinction between  the individual and the military .

People often say, " I'm here for you ", or " There is no fire how to smoke ", so in life no matter what the conflict between the two can not come from one side. In truth, the two parties involved need to rethink themselves.

In the "Analects" of Confucius are many issues about responsible people- blame themselves, in order to compare between the  sub's and gentleman :  "Military electronic signature bridge, the bridge's primary employer" , (roughly translated: The military officer, person responsible person),

Or:  "The children themselves to pay the debt, the remoteness of resentment"  (Translation : People who know themselves take responsibility for themselves but less offensive people, will avoid the resentment .

Confucius said that people who are strict with themselves and tolerate generosity with others can stay away from resentment and hatred. The difference between the ordinary and the saint is that of blaming one's self or blame, which is also the point for Confucius to identify the  individual and the king .

When there is a conflict in the small relationship between people, or broader the relationship than between the national team, if the two sides look at themselves, no matter what the conflict. It is not difficult to solve. If only blame the enemy, do not re-examine themselves, the more distracted, resentment as deep as deep, even conflicts become so intense and break the relationship between the two.

In life, everyone has a lot of dissatisfaction, even more misfortune that has caused the conflict that caused. However, in the face of contradictions, a person who can regularly   re- examine himself or herself, for the sake of others who think a little more, will avoid many controversies and conflicts. , so his mood can be calm and  calm  . He can for others, because the populations, because society which create  relationships  harmony and happiness.

In contrast, those who resent others, criticize others are just hiding and liberating their mistakes, shirk responsibility. This only leads to conflicts between adults, deeper and more separatist.

So blame him for not blaming him!

First-class accountability. (Blame yourself first then blame others)

The old man now reconsidered himself, the little man does not look back on himself that often resent heaven, blame the people, in the heart full of resentment, resentment. The boundary between  the individual and the military , different just because of a word "blame" it.

A military man, often looking for shortcomings in himself without blaming people, then he even though not religious but already in the Tao!END=NAM MO SAKYAMUNI BUDDHA.( 3 TIMES ).VIETNAMESE TRANSLATE ENGLISH BY=THICH CHAN TANH.THE MIND OF ENLIGHTENMENT.VIETNAMESE BUDDHIST NUN=GOLDEN LOTUS MONASTERY=AUSTRALIA,SYDNEY.4/7/2018.