The Buddha taught about 5 criteria to overcome anger.

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Borrowing other objects as a way to escape, deadlock, not a good solution. The defection is of temporary value. Want to remove the yard long and definitely go out of the court with whom to appear, to disassociate with that person.

First, choose the right time. If expressing views to unleash misunderstanding in the public communication should be timely results. At the right time, the listener feels comfortable and gentle. At the good time, sharing the art, the comments will be received.

Second, honesty and sincerity. Spokespeople should speak in the language of the heart with genuine content and words, without adding to the event. How does the event take place? Do not let the flow of emotions go down and down by the event. Sincerity reveals the truth without touching the listener's self-interest.

Third, use smooth speech. The concept of asparagus was taken by the Buddha from the Kali silk fabric in Vanarasi, the most famous place of silk in ancient India. The surface of silk fabric is very smooth to make the wearer feel comfortable, pleasant in all seasons. On the other hand, silk fabric is also worth making jewelry, increase the luxury for wearers (beautiful because of silk). To use silk-like language, graceful intonation, pleasant, smooth. However, do not abuse in unnecessary situations.

Wednesday, content and event are useful. Presenting too many events will make the listener uncomfortable. Mentioning too many things at the same time makes the listener regret the mind of Bodhi, discouraged decay, confused, bored, cynical and withdrawn. The wise want to put value on the benefits of social relations, the understanding, understanding, building are the requirements are indispensable. In the dialogue, just mention what is really beneficial to help the listener make positive changes.

Fifth, speak with compassion. This is the most important and fundamental criterion in comparison with the four criteria. When there is compassion, it will say the right time, the truthful words, no pink bowl, black language, the expression is plentiful and the exchange content has many benefits value, absolutely not cause harm to the listener.

Applying these five criteria to relationships will alleviate the stress of the anger, suffering and will certainly succeed in life. Mindfulness and learning to keep the mind, not to mind from being transformed from happy state to happiness into anger, do not say the words are difficult to hear, divide, hate, ruin ... To speak and live with compassion.

To practice the transformation of anger, can choose the object is considered the hardest, most difficult to love yourself or the person who caused the most pain suffering. If you practice successfully, there is no hard work in life that you can not do. Practice to spread the heart of compassion on the most difficult object. Afterwards, the practice of compassion extends to all creatures and things.

Practice compassion in the reverse model is practice to live with the object of hate before, then to the cute is to aim at the nature of the gut of the yard. When the gut of the courtyard is solved, everything will be transformed. This practice helps to sense and respect the flow of emotions, out of suffering pain. The point of all contradictions and failures in life must be transformed into the object that creates that contradiction, not the other.

Borrowing other objects as a way to escape, deadlock, not a good solution. The defection is of temporary value. Want to remove the yard long and definitely go out of the court with whom to appear, to disassociate with that person.END=NAM MO SAKYAMUNI BUDDHA.( 3 TIMES ).VIETNAMESE TRANSLATE ENGLISH BY=THICH CHAN TANH.THE MIND OF ENLIGHTENMENT.VIETNAMESE BUDDHIST NUN=GOLDEN LOTUS MONASTERY=AUSTRALIA,SYDNEY.8/4/2018.