Chapter 4

ANIMAL AND WEDDING

28. Hatred

Anger is not a wise response. The wise live happily and live happily without anger. First anger can not be called sensible.

One day when the monastery's car came to the red light stopped, I heard the driver next to the curse, "This red light epidemic, you do not know I have a quick appointment and are late for appointment? That you let other cars pass me before, pigs! And this is not the first time ... "

He resented the traffic light as if it had the right to decide. He thought this lamp wanted to make it difficult for him. "Ah, he's here. We know the picture is late. I will let the other car pass before and then a pear ... Red! Stop! I "play" me! "The traffic light can be evil, but it's just a traffic light. What do you want it to do?

I imagine you came home late and your wife shouted, "Brother, bastard husband! He knows we have an important appointment. You know we are late for an appointment. That he was worried about people before me, piglet! And this is not the first time ... "

She resented him as he had the right to decide. She thought her husband wanted to make it difficult for her, "Ah! I have an appointment with my wife. I will be late for the game. We have to take care of others first. Late! I let you know. " The husband may have malice, but he is just a husband. What do you look for in your husbands?

Words in the story can be transformed to be more appropriate for anger situations.

29. Trial

Anger always starts with a trial by an angry man's court set up in his head. If you are angered you will sit in the prosecutor's office, the object of anger sitting in the chair of the defendant; The judge is the conscience. You know the defendant is guilty, but you are still trying to prove to the judge that the crime was committed with a lengthy indictment for the trial to be fair and your mind peaceful. You argue for all sorts of sins, like the wilderness, the double-mindedness and the cruelty of the accused. You return to the past to investigate the other "sins" of the defendant to convince the judge that the defendant is not worth the leniency.

In the defendant's life there is a defense lawyer, but in the court of anger is not, or the defendant's lawyer is not right to speak. You, anger and prosecutor, are unwilling to hear your defense or any apologetic or compassionate plea. You throw yourself a convincing conviction at your will. And the hammer of the judge of conscience you just knocked down is complete: guilty! Then you have enough reason to be angry.

Many years ago I used to make court judgments like when I was angry. It is unfair! Knowing this, later when I get angry, I stop to defend the defendant's attorney. I think of the possible arguments and possible explanations of defense lawyers. I even for forgiveness a very special importance. My conscience is no longer to judge the judge again. No sinner, anger is no reason to arise. And I'm not angry anymore.

30. Retreat

The rope of anger is not expected. We usually invest a lot for ourselves, but if the results are not what we want, we will easily get angry. Saying "not like" means expecting not to meet one hundred percent - misleading. We must understand that the future has not come and nothing is known for sure. The future is unpredictable. Too much reliance on the futuristic future is inviting you to grow up there!

I know a Western Buddhist later became a living monk in the Far East. I stayed in a very strict monastery on a remote mountain. Every year the monastery organizes a two-month retreat, which is very demanding, so many students are not able to follow.

Every morning they have to wake up at 3:00, maybe before but not after the scheduled time, and 3:10 must meditate, lay by lotus and meditate. They meditated for fifty minutes and then meditated for ten minutes and repeated the schedule throughout the day until 10:00 pm to lie down, located in the meditation spot. They also eat at the place of meditation, sit in the lotus position and do not speak. They can only be meditated at the time of the procedure or go to the toilet - with frightened teachers and short sanitation.

After three days our Western monk suffered back pain and numbness because he was not used to sitting so long with lotus flowers. He began to wonder if it would be possible to follow such eight weeks.

Over the first week he saw no significant improvement. In contrast, he had more pain, more pain than he had. But he had to sit for seven more weeks.

He was a brave man so he decided to endure. After the second week he felt a great deal of pain and thought that was "enough for him". His body can not stand it anymore! He remembered the teaching of "Buddhism as the Middle Way" and wondered if this was the middle way?

He looked at the East Asia, see they also bite teeth bear. Because of his pride, he changed his mind and sat back instead of giving up. Two weeks passed. Your body is like sitting on fire. He only waited until 10 o'clock in the evening to lay down, stretching, stretching, stretching, and relaxing. But sleep quickly, 3:00 am wake up wake him up and then he had to spend another long ascetic.

After the thirtieth day, he passed halfway. His hope began to blurted far away, "almost to the end." However, he still felt long and painful days; Sometimes he wanted to cry.

He continued. Two weeks, then one week. In the last week, time passes like an ants holding a foot. Although familiar, but he knew it was not easy. It is impossible to give up now because of the labor he has endured for the past seven weeks. He must come to the end if the common body collapse; At times he thought he could not live.

Kiosk 3:00 am on Friday just poured. He woke up; Soreness as long, if not extreme pain because of the number of days piling up.

Then the last fifty minutes of meditation began. He sat down, crossed his lotus position, thinking about what he would do immediately after the retreat ended, such as a hot shower, casual dining, chatting freely, wandering there, etc. Sudden aches and pains on the body stirred his mind. He stared at the watch for a few moments. He had the feeling of time as it drifted away. And the long needle seemed to stop at the number of eleven that lasted five minutes into fifty centuries!

What has started will eventually come to an end. The pendant ended the last meditation and completed the sixty-day retreat. The sound is sweet and very sweet. He felt lightheaded. Joy comes to him in continuous waves, repelling all back aches. He succeeded. He went to the destination. He will reward himself. By a hot shower!

Unrealism suddenly falls. I have something to say to yogis. He declared:

"The course is wonderful. Many advancements are out of reach, so there are suggestions - suggestions during the filing process - to extend the course for another two weeks. Thought it was a wonderful idea. So let's continue. Please sit back "

All sat down, leveled in the lotus position and started another two weeks. Our Western monk recounts that he no longer aches. He just wanted to know which monk suggested such evil. He also wants to have "unworthy" attitude towards such ignorant monks. Anger made him forget the pain. He is burning passionately. He was behind the gas.

The flowers suddenly fall again. Fifteen minutes, he said, was the fastest passing moment in his life.

"The retreat ended," he announced. He went on to say, "The tea break is ready for all the brothers in the chapel. Dear brothers and sisters. And fraternities can talk now "

Our monk is almost lost, "thought I would meditate for another two weeks. What is it? "He wondered loudly. The teacher confessed that he was confused and smiled.

"Do not worry, you do it every year"

31. The Xa Swallowing Irritability

People are often angry. A strange and also a matter worth mentioning. Many people are "liking" or "ham" anger is another. Everyone knows what is liked, the ham is rarely let go. However, hatred always has more disastrous consequences than benefit.

In ancient times, in one kingdom there was a palace erupting into the palace at the king dwelling in the distance. Yaks have a strange shape, foul odors strong speech and disgusting speech. The servants and servants were terrified. It is also walking in the royal court. Once upon a time he had climbed onto his throne. Outrage, great general:

Innocent, down right. If not, this sword will cut off your head "

According to the threat, the massage is more intense, smelly and lumpy. So the sword is bare, the threat is more intense. And, the yeast is even more disgusting.

The king's loan. He saw on the throne a huge yolk, smelly smell, causing the maggots to run and talk to the head of the buffalo horse face is also taboo. The king was a bright king ( he was the emperor) : he knew how to treat. He said,

He sent him to the palace. Army, presenting Banquet "

Some of the emperor's harmony made ya see, less foul and less disgusting. Seeing the effect of money labels, the military and women are racing to use the language to serve the eraser. Their friendly and polite gestures make their lashes smaller and smaller until they are no longer visible.

 We can sometimes turn into "yin swallowing anger". Outraged with them, they can become huge yolks, extreme smelly and disgusting nobody. Have seen the mistake (make them more ugly) we know how to behave, right?  

Suffering is another kind of "eradication of hatred". Whenever we start thinking, "Suffer, get out of me. I'm not your resident, "it grows a little further. I know it's not easy to say goodbye to suffering, but sometimes we have no other choice. As when I had a toothache  (see "Let go of pain", No. 25 ) - extreme pain, I honestly opened my heart to pain, I did not feel the same pain anymore. Some cancers - especially the type of cancer that is caused by depression - are seen as "yawning swallowing anger". They hide in our bodies, or "sit on our throne". Treatment to denote it "going away" is a common practice. But if the patient should also use a language that says, "My heart is open to please, if I can do it anyway."

32. Yes! How much that Enough! I'm going!

Another harm of anger that we need to keep in mind is that it kills the relationship and divides our friends. We can end our long years of introspection because of a mistake that makes us angry.

All good (998 good bricks) that we shared have no value at all. We only pay attention to a mistake (two deflected blocks) and then tread down all. It's not fair at all. Who wants to lonely to nurture anger, friends.

A young couple that I have a chance to finish my contract in Perth. They came up with the idea of ​​returning home in Toronto, Canada, by sea. They bought a yacht and a couple with a friend traveling across the Pacific to Vancouver. Here they will sell the yacht to get back the capital to buy the house. This calculation is very good because just a lot of money has just been a trip to remember the two young couples.

When they arrived safely in Canada, they sent me a letter describing their wonderful trip. In particular they recount an event that shows how stupid people are when angry and the reason for indignation needs to be mastered.

At the middle of the Pacific Ocean, the nearest island of hundreds of thousands of miles, the boat broken machine. Two brothers down the tunnel to find a way to fix. Two sisters sit on the sun deck and read books. The machine is hot and tight. Well, the machine is very tedious, do not want to be repaired; The big snail is not turning, the small snail falls into the cavity without reaching, the oil is leaking. Frustrated with frustration, initially with the machine between the two brothers together. Frustrated to become angry and angry. One of them threw his tongs and said, "Yes! How much is enough!

He left the tunnel, went into his bin, changed clothes, and collected his clothes in his handbag. Finish him on the deck, dress socks, hand bag, color tunnel. Two brothers saw him, laughing leaping, laughing, falling into the sea. The guilty guy looked around, seeing the immense waters far from the horizon. No way to step. He "home a clump!"

He escapes into the bin, changes and returns to the cellar to help you. You can not do anything else. Where are the lines that go!

33. How to Make a Stomach?

When there is no other way to go, we should face more difficulties than escape. Every problem can have an answer that we can not recognize if running in the opposite direction. In the story above, the boat is repaired, you are still a friend, and their trip together wonderful.

We live on this planet and we are getting closer and closer together. So we should find a solution to the problem rather than the dispute as there is no other place where we migrate.

I have a life experience please tell this to you guys.

1975: The Cambodian, South Vietnamese and Lao PDR governments collapse. According to the prevailing domino theory, it is predicted that Thailand will also share the same fate. Then I was a young monk living in Northeastern Thailand. My monastery near Hanoi than Bangkok. All foreign monks are required to register to have their embassies set up evacuation lists. But the Thai government did not collapse, a surprise to the Western governments. Number is:

Many Thai generals and politicians go to the monastery to meet Ajahn Chah, an elder who is well known. I understand some Thai and Lao should know the importance of the problem. The Thai authorities are not afraid of attacking outside, but are afraid of intruders from within. Many students and students in the northeastern Thai forests join the Thai separatist group being trained and equipped by several neighboring countries. Many villages in the volunteer area provide cash for them. The threat is real and is threatening northeastern Thailand.

The Thai government and military have adopted three strategies and strategies:

Self-defense: The military does not attack the enemy positions where they know the location is very clear. They advised me not to go to this mountain because of the enemy but to the mountain without them, when I was meditating in the forest (about 1979-80). During this time, I heard there were many meditators in the forest as I was arrested, tortured and killed by the separatist group.

Forgiveness: In this dangerous time, the Thai government has a policy of clemency for dissidents if they give up their guns and give up their intentions. People are returned to the living village, students and students to the school they attended before. They may be monitored but not punished. I visited a village in KowWong district where the separatists ambushed and killed a Jeep full of soldiers. I was told that all the young men in the village - mostly separatist sympathizers - were arrested, threatened, but then all were released.

Solve the root: In those years, I found the local government to make roads, asphalt so people can go to market easily. The king came to oversee and sponsor a number of irrigation projects that helped the northeasterners make two crops a year to earn extra income. Electricity is drawn to the most remote areas, and schools and hospitals are built for all levels of the population. Northeastern Thailand became prosperous and prosperous.

I once heard Thai soldiers patrolling the forest saying, "Thai troops do not need to shoot insurgents because they are Thai friends. Particularly when I meet them down the mountain for food - I know who they are - I just need to show them my watch or listen to Thai music in my new record machine, they leave the forest. " You and also of your soldiers.

The Thai separatists rebelled against the government by hatred for the lives of young people. But the Thai government urged itself to neutralize the fire of hatred. Laxative policies help them escape safely and honorably. The rural development program helps people escape poverty. So the people no longer have a reason to support the breakaway group anymore. And the protesters began to doubt what they were doing. I do not know how much hardships in the mountains in the forest.

One by one the others put their guns back to their families, villages and schools. In the early 1980s, there were not many secessionists; Its leaders have followed the government. I remember reading a special article published in the Bangkok Post newspaper by an investor writing about bringing Thai tourists to watch the caves that the Thai separatist group had taken refuge.

What about separatist leaders? Will they enjoy leniency policy? They are not punished or exiled. Moreover, they were elected to important positions in government, relying on their leadership, their hard work and their concern for the nation. While writing this book I know there are two former separatist leaders currently serving in the Thai government in the chair of the secretary general. A very beautiful action.

These are stories I heard from soldiers and villagers in northeastern Thailand at that time. I also have good conditions witnessed eye again. But unfortunately there are few reports that are disseminated. So sad!

34. Doing For Freedom

When someone harms you, you do not have to retaliate. If you are an apostle of Christianity, Islam or Hebrew, you believe that they are punished by the Divine. If you are Buddhist, Indian or Sikh, you know that evil doers are inevitable. If you are a modern therapist, you are sure that he or she will spend a lot of money and years to get a psychiatrist because of guilt.

So you do not need to "teach them a lesson". Seeing that we do not need to be the judge is wise. By letting go and forgiving, we still do the full responsibility of citizens as often.

I have two Western practitioners. A former service officer in the US Marine Corps was wounded in a clash in Vietnam. The other is a very successful former businessman and "retired" at the age of 25 both are nimble, straight and "lead".

The monks are taught not to fight or fight, but these two monks are fighting over each other. They are very upset. As they were shouting back, the original monk suddenly collapsed and knelt down on the foot of the merchant monk and raised his head and said, "Excuse me. Please forgive me "

His gestures and words came from the bottom of his heart - naturally and sincerely - making him unable to hold back his tears after a moment of silence.

Then the two monks step by step, step by step intersection. You have to be that way.

35. Positive Thought

I often hear forgiveness easier to practice in the temple than in real life. For forgiveness is often taken advantage of. People tend to "overtake" you because you think you are weak. I agree. Forgiveness because of impotence can not bring good results. There is a saying, "Take out your cheeks a second, you have to go to the dentist twice, instead of one!"

In the story, "How to Stop the Insurrection", the Thai government is doing more than simply forgiving through unconditional leniency: they find the source of the problem - poverty - to solve satisfactorily. Thanks to that, the policy of clemency succeeded.

I call that form "positive pardon," "positive" meaning reinforcing the advantages for them to form satisfactory. And "forgiveness" means letting go of the evil of the problem - leaving them behind and going. For example, watering the flowers in the garden, if we only irrigation weed nuisance, if the lawn mulberry we do work alone, if only irrigation we apply positive pardon.

One or five years ago, after a legal time in Perth on a Friday afternoon, a lady maid thanked me and thanked me for all the monks who had told me about it. . I know her face because she has been listening to the law every week for a long time, but has not had the opportunity to talk to her. She said she came to the hospital for the first time seven years ago. Then she went to the temple to have reasons to leave the house to avoid the brute husband for a few hours. Her husband is very jealous and peddling her feet so badly, but she does not know who to rely on  (because there was no sanction for bribery and she can not divorce).

But Dharma has changed her life. She heard many stories of "positive forgiveness" by the theories. She is certain to apply. She said every time her husband tried to scold her, she forgave him and ignored everything. How she does, no one knows, only her alone. And every time he had a gentle voice or gesture, she responded with words or gestures to see her cherish what he did to her. She did not miss any chance.

She exhaled and said she had to wait seven long years. She tears, me too.

Seven years, "she emphasized. Then she continued, "And now he can not imagine where my husband completely changed. We are very loving and have two wonderful babies. "Her face lit up like a halo of the gods that made my heart sink as she wanted to get her.

She showed me the chair she used to sit in meditation and said, "He just played in the week to make me a surprise gift." "Seven years ago that chair was only used. To make fun of me "she laughed. I laughed at her and the choking in my neck disappeared.

I very much appreciate this woman. She is enjoying great happiness, I know, through her radiant face. And, she transformed a hungry ghost into a loving family husband. She helped one person. High!

The above is a rare example of "positive forgiveness" that those who are on the way to the Sacred Stream can proclaim. However, we also see the benefits of forgiveness with kindness.END=NAM MO SHAKYAMOUNI BUDDHA.( 3 TIMES ).VIETNAMESE TRANSLATE ENGLISH BY=THICH CHAN TANH.THE MIND OF ENLIGHTENMENT.VIETNAMESE BUDDHIST NUN=GOLDEN LOTUS MONASTERY=AUSTRALIA,SYDNEY.18/7/2017.